I have tested positive to Chalymdia

[Yorkshirelass2016]

Hi

My partner and I have been at breaking point for a while we are not getting on. We have had a lot of difficult things happen one after another to get us to this point, a break in at are home when we were on holiday, 2 miscarriages and lost close family members. Each issue happened close together one after another. We have tried to stay together because we do still love each other and have been trying for a baby in the hope it would bring a positive spin on our life. however we have struggled to conceive and started to have tests following he miscarriages as well at the hospital. One of the tests for a woman was chalmydia and it has come back positive yesterday. I didn't know what that meant exactly and read more about it when I got home. I have been with my partner for 5.5 years sexually and prior to that was with my previous partner for nearly 7 years I haven't slept with anyone else in that time. when I have read about the infection yesterday I realised I may have some of the symptoms but not realised what it was. I have only had them for a short time though so not like it's gone on all the years I have been with my current partner. I have never had a sexually transmitted disease before, is it possible it laid dorment all this time before it's shown it's self ? I know for 100% I have cheated so would it mean my current or previous partner has ?

No you could have got it years ago, that's why they offer free testing because you won't know you've got it.

Have you ever been tested for STIs before?

Chlamydia can have either no or very non-specific symptoms so as PP says, it's possible that you've had it for a long time. It doesn't necessarily mean that anyone has cheated, but your current and previous partners should be told and tested.

I know for 100% I have[n't] cheated so would it mean my current or previous partner has ?

If your current partner has had it for 6 years and passed it onto you then he hasn't cheated, right?

Chlamydia is largely symptom free so you could have caught this at any time and been unaware. Let your DP know so he can be tested too.

I tested positive with it when I was with my ExH many years ago. I knew he hadn't cheated and the last time I slept with someone was years previously, so I'd had it a very long time with no symptoms.
My ex went to get tested and he came back negative! The nurse told me that often happens, we'd been together ages and he hadn't caught it off me.