Is this usual?

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I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months now, started off as a FWB situation but it has developed into more. I was with my ex for 21 years since the age of 17 and only had 2 partners before him, so my experience in terms of a variety of partners is limited.

The sex is off the scale with the new guy, experimental and very very hot. Sex with my ex was always satisfying but functional ifykwim. He has loads of experience, both of us are very hot for each other and everytime he makes sure that I have several orgasms before he does.

However, my ex could cum in any position with me, whether I was on top, using my hand, blow jobs etc. New guy has only ever orgasmed in one position (from behind when he is controlling the pace etc), and not via any other means. Is this usual for guys? I guess i feel a bit "unskilled" or should I just get over it and enjoy it as it is (I have zero complaints its just not something I am used to and the little insecurity monster is emerging ).

He said to me the other night "you are so good I don't know how it is possible" (shameless boast) so i guess he is enjoying it as much as me :) I have brought it up with him and he just smiled at me!

Thanks in advance!

Although I haven't been with someone like that myself I have heard of it more than a few times so fairly normal I guess.

If you are enjoying it great but I probably would broach the subject again if it was me. Maybe send a kinky message telling him you are going to give him a blowjob from start to finish and that way it is on the cards and an opportunity for him to tell you if that isn't possible. I think I would see it as a challenge but that is me!

But once again as it seems you are both enjoying it I really wouldn't worry.

You're getting the arse fucked off you and you want to overthink it???

Its called sexual prowess and guys get high on it. It makes them feel powerful give multiple "O's"

But a thank you full blown BJ should be welcome iyswim :)

It's really not anything you need to worry about. All men are different just as all women are (I can't orgasm more than once without a long rest after for example, if your fella met me he might feel inadequate unnecessarily no?)
Some men need more friction than others which can't be provided by oral or woman on top. I've come across (fnar) men who can only come through doggy or by him on top with my legs right up on my chest because other positions are too soft...but they said they enjoyed it as build up but needed to shift for the final event. Don't stress.

DP struggles to finish in any other position other than what you describe. Never finished from a blowhob (from anyone, made me feel slightly less shit!) I just let him do it how he wants, I'm already sorted so doesn't bother me.

I believe it is something to do with wanking though, they get used to the pressure and speed that can't be replicated by sex

I'd say he's watching way too much porn.....

Lucky you !

2littlemoos: challenge, i like your thinking :)

Noego: you hit the nail on the head I am a chronic over thinker!

So last night, we were chatting about contraception. He told me he has retrograde ejaculation, sometimes he ejaculates a tiny amount, sometimes not at all. I hadn't noticed as we use condoms and he always finishes from behind. I guess that might explain it?

Anyway, he seems to enjoy everything and he certainly is a master craftsman, just likes to finish in a certain way, so I will stop stressing and enjoy getting the "arse fucked off me" .

Retrograde ejaculation is more common than people think. Especially in the older guy. It does not mean that they don't get off. They still orgasm but with less of the a mess :)

Oh he orgasms and gets off for sure, i have no doubt about that ;)

No problems then :)

Currently enjoying a snoozy cuddle from my 5 month old product of retrograde ejaculation ( iyswim) . You need contraception!! It's not a position thing for DH to cum.

I know I need contraception, we were talking about me having my coil removed as its causing me issues and it came up about his retrograde ejaculation. I wondered if he has learnt to cum in a certain position so partners don't realize he doesn't ejaculate, not for any other reason ifykwim.

I am super fertile at 39 nearly, my gynae doctor scanned my ovaries a few months ago and told me they were like in my 20's ;) . I do not want more kids at the moment (or possibly in the future (who knows).

Thanks for the replies.

Or he does ejaculate, just not the "normal" way.

I thought you were about 19!

Hahahaha! Why?

I am a nurse as well ;)

I feel like I am 19 again though.

No, sorry that looked rude.
It was your enthusiasm!
God for you though!

Good* rather.
I'm sure you don't need God right now!

checkoutchick: I'm experiencing a sexual revolution in my late 30's, making up for lost time......lol!

God (or my friend) has sent me a gift

No, l'm going to hope it all works out for you
It sounds great!
Have fun...

I think it's quiet normal for men to have a certain way they can only ejaculated, my ex could only come when we finished of with a bj, he blamed it on too much wanking and watching porn for 5 years.
Unfortunately he became a ex before we managed to change this with playing together enough to change that...not due this this issue though!

Hi

Not to go into too much detail but I cannot always orgasm in certain postions, I don't see it as an problem, I'm still havibg a lot of fun and the sex can last longer - win win for both of us!

You're both enjoying great sex, don't overthink it

Doggy certainly does do it for most men. I think that in that position the amount of stimulation the penis receives is much increased leading to quicker orgasm for the man.

There may also be psychological issues. I mean if a man is entering you from behind, he can take his own pleasure and not see your face. Maybe there is a fear of the intimacy associated with face to face positions?

If he's keeping going to make sure you have multiple orgasmsits likely he'll need more thrusting and deeper penetration for him to cum at the end. Have you thought of prostrate massage either through a finger or a toy and go on top? Maybe after getting you 'sorted' change positions with you on top and insert the toy/ finger with lots of lube and see if that helps?

My dp could only orgasm whilst he was on top and controlling the pace which when we first started out was very fast.

He had only had one partner before me and it turns out that was just how they had always done it. No variety at all.

It took a while but we slowed things down a lot and I went on top (and other positions) and he can now