Have I lost my orgasm for good?

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I sincerely hope not!

Bit of background, been with current partner for just over a year. We dont live together but spend a lot of time at each others house. He works away for 2 weeks/back for 2 weeks.

In this time, I have only ever had 1 orgasm with him. My previous partner and I seemed to have our sex life so right too. I would orgasm almost every time. But with current partner it is just not happening.

When we met, he had a fair few hang ups sexually, stemming from his ex. Over the last year, we have worked through these and he has now become more sexually confident and his libido has increased. Which is truly great but I feel I have sacrificed my own pleasure in getting him to this stage. There has been a lot of start/stopping, him cumming too early but this has gotten much better.

Of course I would never say this to him as it would really hurt him. He is already feeling not up to scratch because he cant make me orgasm. Physically, he is doing everything right. I love and desire him but I now have just accepted its never going to happen, despite all our efforts. Which is very sad.

We are both in our mid forties and I am on HRT as menopausal. I'm not sure if this could be affecting things. When we are having sex, its like I'm almost there then it just vanishes. When he is away working, I use a vibrator but I'm finding this can take a while now too.

Can anyone advise. I'm trying not to focus on it all the time as I think its now becoming psychological too. And I do not want this to drive a wedge in what is overall a great relationship.

Hormones certainly affect things, maybe have a chat with your GP about alternatives to the HRT you're on?

Could possibly be hormonal. Mine disappeared recently too and, like yours, it was during both intercourse and masturbation.

I think it was made worse by worry and as soon as I discussed it with DP, relaxed and didn't worry about it happening it's came back. Actually at the moment it's back better than before, like I'm getting my backlog .

What type of hrt are you on? The gels and patches are better than tablets. Also have you asked fir your testosterone levels to be checked. If low that can affect libido and orgasm

I'm currently on Femeston tablets. I didn't know about testosterone levels too so I'll ask my GP about that and patches. Thank you

Oh my god, are you me? The exact same thing has happened to me since Ive been on Femoston/Eleste Duet over the last twelve months. I didnt see this problem under the list of side effects did you? Like you, I'll be looking at alternatives like gel or cream now. So frustrating.

I'd not get too optimistic over changing HRT! There is no evidence that a) it makes libido worse or b) patches or gel makes libido better.

Not sure where those ideas came from

The bonus of transdermal HRT is a) absorbed better than pills and b) no risk of blood clots.

I have not seen anything to say it makes you multi orgasmic and I've used gel for 10 years

Testosterone is not available for women on the NHS. Your GP can prescribe it , using the products' for men, if you reduce the dose. Many GPs won't do this and you may need to see a consultant.

First thing to do is increase the oestrogen dose in your HRT, so 1mg up to 2mgs. Or gel you can do from 1.5mgs to 2, 2.5 and 3mgs.