No interest in sex anymore?

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Changed name as embarrassed

I have never been that interested in sex but I did enjoy it and did enjoy some me time ()
But since giving birth . . . Nada!

The same things don't turn me on anymore. We've had sex three times and I've just closed my eyes and waited for it to be over. I've tried some masturbation but I bore myself, in just not interested.

I love my husband so much and feel so sorry for him. I'm not worried he'll leave me or cheat - he's amazing. But I want to get "us" back.

Anyone experienced similar and found a solution? We have a night away together soon and I'm willing to try anything!

TIA

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Ever tried inviting him to join you in the bath before? If your night away is at a hotel with a nice bathroom it could be the perfect time to try that out - a nice unexpected surprise for him, you get to relax for a bit before you invite him in, can be silly with bubbles together if you want, and if you have any body image hangups or worries then it doesn't matter because most of you is hidden under water /bubbles. (unless he uses condoms in which case this only works for foreplay and you'd presumably have to get out the bath to continue)

apparently having an agreed period of time with no full sex...not sure how long ..but plenty of touching and intimacy works.

How long is it since birth? Are you still breastfeeding? Have you been put on hormonal contraception (e.g. Mirena coil or pill)?

I was exactly as yiu describe after ds was born.

I left things as i thought it would get better i time.

It didn't. It destroyed my relationship.
Strongly suggest you talk to your dp & if things don't improve go to your GP.

Sorry delayed reply.

To answer questions - we did he bath thing in the past so maybe try again. It's been 9 months, I'm still breastfeeding and on the pill (cerazette)

Had our weekend away and I made big effort and we did have sex and talked. He's fine, he gets it, hes amazing, he's just hoping I'll get back into it and I think he's slightly concerned it's that I no longer fancy him - which I tried to make very clear that's not it at all.

The sex did nothing for me 

I'm so sorry winniethepooer that happened to you. I think I will go and see the GP.

It is very likely down to hormones tbh. The fact that you are still breastfeeding and on the pill has probably just screwed with your hormones so much that you just don't get the feelings you normally would. Go speak to your doctor and see if a change of pill would help. Really worth sorting this out as you shouldn't be having sex out of obligation or to keep your husband happy.