Spanking

[Vanillaisboring666]

Omg I just discovered this with dh as he spanked me during doggy style sex out the blue. I bloody loved it . Afterwards I felt a bit embarrased that I enjoyed being spanked . Please tell me you too enjoy it and I'm not strange ??? Our sex life is great at the moment and I want it every night. It's true the more u do it the more u want it

Noego pmsl

Spanking is pretty vanilla, isn't it ?

Probably AF but for me its not. I guess for others it may be seen as really boring and vanilla though. I'm not at all experienced . Neither me nor dh have been with other sexual partners. We met at school and have remained faithful to eachother. We have had 4 dcs so never explored much further than main stream sex. I'm Enjoying being more adventurous now tho

Enjoy it.

I am. I jist don't understand why I feel a bit embarrased with myself ? Dh says it's brilliant but I can't help feeling that I'm doing something wrong and a bit dirty wanting to be spanked and hit with a riding crop (I know I'm not and we have a healthy sex life it's just me over thinking, I think ?)

Don't over think. Be creative. There are plenty of implements on a farm :)
I can think of plenty :) But I shouldn't indulge myself. Not seeing FWB for a few days :)

Get a paddle. Much friendlier than a crop. So I've heard 😳

Absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. It's all fun and it sounds like you and your DH are having a ball!

Although MumBod I think it depends on the paddle. I think it's to do with if there's holes in it it hurts less. Not sure of the science...!

And idea what's kickstarted things for you? Did you start reading/watching stuff, or did you just wake up sexy one day?
can you tell who's in a rut?

Geeky suede feels nice, so I've heard.

You'll be wandering round B&Q soon thinking 'we could use that'

We have been together 20 odd years and have always enjoyed this side of our sexuality, in fact it was the main reason we were attracted to one another. Experiment, if you don't like it, you don't have to do it again

I personally don't like gags or blindfolds, or porn for that matter, they just don't do anything for me. Everything else you mentioned, we've probably tried some with more success than others during the years.

It sounds like you have a really healthy relationship with your DH so just enjoy yourselves

You need a 'safe word' though, as sometimes with these things, there is a bit of 'oh no don't do that it hurts' but if you agree on safe word it means if you say it he has stop immediately. The idea really is that you shouldn't have to use the safe word as your partner should know your limits, but it is essential whilst you are still exploring this side of your sexuality.

Mine has always been RED which means stop immediately or YELLOW for 'that's still ok but only just' .... I don't think I've used either for many many years!

And I'd have done a much better job writing 50 Shades!

Search for Sybian it's like a pommel seat with a vibrator attached ... never tried one though, too expensive

I don't know what's kick started it ? My dd4 started sleeping through in January and I stopped bf then also . A month after stopping bf iv just been feeling really sexual? ? My boobs r amazing and biggest they ever been. They r a 34E and breastfeeding has made them this way. I thought they wud be saggy teabags but honestly they are big round and not saggy at all. I just feel so sexy finally having boobs. I'm not pretty or a supermodel but I do like nice make up and fake tan . For so long I just didn't bother being a mum of 4 but now I'm starting to take pride in myself again and it's making me feel better about myself . We would go 3 months with no sex when I was breastfeeding but now I can't manage 3 days without ? I don't understand it myself. It's like iv been possessed xx

Crack on I say.

My DH is a little rougher than I imagine is normal but I don't mind.

I guess it's maybe something you should discuss beforehand so you aren't alarmed if you don't like it.

But otherwise - enjoy

My dh is also sometimes rougher than I'd like; but I also get off on him enjoying it ,so i don't complain.

Whips are reeeeeeeally stingy like papercut slice sting but 50 times more ouch. Never had a 'sensual' whipping

Crops have a bit of a crack with the sting, can be quite sensual depending on how they're used.

Floggers can be heavier, more of a thud with a sting, some dont even have a discernable 'bite' depending on the material used.

Enjoy your exploring, youve got some great advice up there^^ have fun

Maybe it's muscular men just don't know their own strength.

It's probably the fact that you feel it's dirty that turns you on like me

DH and I are high school sweethearts too. We're now late twenties and have always had a very kinky sex life; we practice BDSM.

I love being spanked too, but with a firm, hard hand and a good long session. He also uses a crop on me sometimes, which I also enjoy.

Being spanked/cropped until I cry is so carthartic; I love it.

Really ? I just can't imagine finding crying a turn on ? Are you crying because it's so painful or is it because you are in such a state of ectasy ???

Oh crying is a massive turn on for me, whatever causes it. I'm happiest when I'm most miserable And it's both at once.

When you're with someone you trust absolutely it's amazing what you can end up enjoying. I never thought I'd like half of what I get up to but with DH, who would stop immediately if I wanted him to (or even if I didn't want him to and he was concerned) all sorts of shenanigans happen.

I love it. I think the main turn on for me is being bent over DPs knee. Oddly I don't really get turned on by the pain though, so only a mild spanking for me.

I think you should enjoy the naughty/dirty feeling as like others have said, that's part of the turn on. I don't like anything too rough but I do love a spank, arms held behind my back, hair pulled, hard thrusting, mouth covered, filthy talk, Not interested in any equipment or hardcore stuff though. Just enjoy it and explore at your own pace Sex is a funny thing, I love being submissive sexually but it doesn't translate to the rest of my life with DP at all. It's okay to be filthy!

It's funny you read so much on here how we wonder if it is normal etc but as some of the other ladies have said if it feels good there is nothing wrong with it.

I love being spanked while we do doggy it feels naughty!