I've lost my orgasm

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I'm having the best sex of my life, I fancy DP more than ever, he's fantastic in bed and has always made me climax throughout our many years together. I was sterilized last year, so no longer have the side effects of the pill or worries about conceiving, but I'm having difficulty climaxing.

We have plenty of foreplay and the build up is still there, but I think it's about to happen and it just disappears. I've also found it much harder to orgasm during masturbation, it seems to take ages and be pretty meh when it does happen with or without a vibrator.

I'm 43 and still have the desire to dtd every night and don't feel like I'm drying up, so don't think it's peri-menopausal.

Anyone else ever experienced similar and any ideas how to get it back?

That's my lot too now OP. All the advice in the world won't change it. The desire is still there but it arrives and it's nothing. It arrives and it's over. I'm in my 40s and it was like that from about 40. Feels too young.

Guilty, I know I have no willpower whatsoever, it didn't last one day .

Settling - have you been like this for long? Do you experience the build up ok, but fall short at the last moment too?

I think the advice to stop focussing on the climax and just enjoy the sensation is spot on. It takes the pressure off and stops it feeling like a failure.

I've made a doctor's appointment to check my thyroid, as I may have a few symptoms of an under active thyroid, but I am really reluctant to talk to the very uptight, male GP about orgasms. I'm not generally so embarrassed talking about sex but can't imagine being able to discuss it. Is this weird?

I plucked up the courage about two years ago and gp refered me to gynae. Apt was nearly two years in to the future so a woman's enjoyment not a big concern huh.. but too embarrassed to go back and push. Apt only a few months away now. I may bring a small 40ml bottle of whisky with me to give me the nerve to raise it again. It is hard to raise subject only to be met with a shrug or the inference that you're an entitled nympho

I'm in the same boat - it's driving me mad! I'm pretty sure it's medication that's causing it for me, I'm on Tamoxifen since my breast cancer last year, trouble is I have to take it for at least five years. Sigh.....

Has this been since your c-section? I had exactly the same thing- had my third c-section last July and my ability to climax only came back properly a month ago!!