It's abit embarrassing but... follow up

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Re previous thread. Long story short dp put a finger up my backside during sex and caught me by surprise. It really did hurt.
It's now been 9 days and I wasn't able to get into my gp, so I went to urgent care.
Turns out I have a terrible uti, a split in my back passage and so much bruising that it went through my vaginal wall. I had to reassure the nurse it was, in fact, consensual! I'm so glad I went when I did because I've been feeling rather under the weather which of course, I can now attribute to the uti.

Ouch! Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Holy moly!
Glad you saw someone and are being treated.
Hoping your husband will be checking before he spices things up in future!

Oh goodness, OP. Glad you went to get it checked out.

Crikey that's brutal. One finger that caused massive bruising like that? Are you sure/ok?

OP Are you sure it was consensual?

That sounds horrific. No man should ever be that rough with you. Especially your 'Dear' partner.

I remember your other thread- Jesus wept, there is no way I'd let him near my back passage again, I can't imagine how rough that must've been to cause that!!

Glad you're on the mend now

OP, did you know he was going to do that to you? Did he ask first?

Surely it hurt like hell with no lube?I presume there was no lube hence quite so much damage. I would've been shrieking the house down!

Jesus.

Good God. Someone took me surprise like that - many moons ago, pre-DH - but whilst I nearly hit the ceiling and requested that the digit be swiftly removed, I didn't suffer any damage. Poor you! I hope you start to feel better and your DP is suitably horrified.

Crikey, he must have been ridiculously rough. I hope you're OK.

Ouch! He owes you some VERY gentle love after this.

For the doubters - my DP once slipped and accidentally rammed my backside so hard it split the skin. Not as severe as the OP, but I had room to manoeuvre in the position we were in and could push away immediately (then run to the bathroom in tears). I could see his face, so know it was an accident of timing and position. It's awful, but accidents truly do happen.

On your first thread you said you let him. Now he caught you by surprise?

I hope you are ok OP

pixie he initially caught me by surprise, then I continued to let him. At the time, while the initial surprise hurt, during and after it felt alright!

Hope you get better soon. I would give a long hard think as to whether you really feel this was 100% consensual though. My wife may well consent to penetrative sex of an evening, that doesn't mean I have carte blanche consent to be as rough as I like and cause her physical pain or damage though.

That's really good advice and something to mull over.

Does he have enormous hulk hands? I'm astonished that one finger could cause so much damage.

I've experienced a partner causing pain with a jagged fingernail before (vaginally or anally) but never to this degree and I've always yelped "Ouch! Stop!" immediately on entry.

Had either of you been drinking? Just wondering if alcohol had anaesthetized you and/or impaired judgement.

Glad you're getting treatment now

Nope no drinking. Just a normal mid week shag 😂

I am amazed that he did so much damage without you realising he was hurting you at the time.

He shouldn't have surprised you with something like this. Even if you didn't object, he should have checked first and if you'd agreed, used appropriate care and lube to ensure he didn't hurt you. What has his response been to what he has done?

OP you haven't answered the question was it consensual?

On a personal note me and my partner use lube for vaginally sex I can't imagine going in dry anywhere!

He doesn't sound like a very nice man to be fair, who does any kind of bum stuff without lube?!

Oh gosh I remember this happening and being an accidental slip, the guy was quite big and I actually passed out staggering to the en-suite as I felt so sick. Could sit comfy for days. But this was huge. Luckily he got me back into bed & I was ok. I just remember my legs buckling.

Yes, it was consensual. Its not a regular feature in our sex life because I'm not a fan of it but I'm not upset by him doing it. Yes he probably should have checked but I think sometimes he thinks I won't notice 🙄in the past when I've said no he has backed off instantly. He can try his luck sometimes.

Personally I would make it very clear I was not interested just incase he tried his luck again.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

What did he do to cause that much damage. How does he feel now. Read your last statement you don't like it, you do it not to upset him, he didn't check, thinks you won't notice and caused significant damage so the medical staff thought you had been assaulted.