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It it normal to put up with some discomfort when having sex?

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IfeelFloopy · 29/05/2017 00:22

My partner and I have been together for 2 years. When we first got together we had sex most days, as you often do in the beginning! But I have always found intercourse a bit uncomfortable. He is I suppose a little larger than average (not massively so) and I have been told during various examinations that I am on the small side down below. I don't remember feeling like this so much with ex partners.

The frequency of our sex has dwindled quite a lot lately and we need to make more of an effort. The thing is, I feel like my sex drive is lower than it used to be when I was younger. I am 34 and have no children but think my sex drive should be higher and I am just wondering if things would be different I felt only pleasure when we have sex. As it is I put up with a certain amount of discomfort.

I feel like there isn't enough room inside me or something! I've read that he could be hitting my cervix but no position is 100% pleasure for me. I was found last year to have a very small amount of endometriosis (which was treated) and had and still have adhesions from my appendix to my bowel. It is possible that this contributes to the way it feels for me but I'm not sure if it's normal for it to feel a bit uncomfortable? I feel like if I didn't experience this I'd want and enjoy sex more!

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MrsJayy · 29/05/2017 00:29

Yes if you have possible scar tissue then it will be a bit sore you need to make sure you have lots of lubrication.

Happybunny19 · 29/05/2017 18:21

Is foreplay sufficient? Are you lubricated enough? My DP is quite a lot larger than average, but is careful about prep, so there's never discomfort. You should get physically checked by your gp regarding the scar tissue and any other possible causes. I don't think many of us would be that into it if in pain. Please don't tolerate this any longer.

NotTheFordType · 31/05/2017 12:27

Are you using lube? Always use lube. No matter how much you've already cum, some women (like me) still need lube to keep things comfortable.

StephanieAteMyLunch · 13/06/2017 22:51

Lube is a game changer. I got it initially for use with a menstrual cup.

Dh is large, I am rather small and I have endometriosis. The lube just makes everything more comfortable, I never felt like I was lacking in lubrication so never thought that lube would help in any way. I never experienced any discomfort but honestly, what have you got to lose?

Lovehoney do some small bottles so you can see which ones you like. And no, sex should never be something you tolerate.

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