Will I have orgasm again with DH now we've got kids

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Sex with DH is always decent, and I used to be able to orgasm 90% of the time thru sex alone

Since we've had a couple of kids I have not been able to orgasm once through sex (I can when I masturbate tho)

Have I physically changed down there so I can't come thru sex alone, or is it that I'm just not relaxed enough?

Has anyone else found this?

He'll just have to try harder, won't he?

A very high proportion of women cannot orgasm though penetration alone (including those without kids).

Have you had sex when the kids are out? Or are you in a tense state worrying about them waking up?

Things do change downstairs after kids. I can orgasm now in positions I never did pre-children, and positions that I enjoyed previously now don't do it for me as much! I was also really paranoid for ages that I "felt" different to him while we were having sex. Pelvic floor exercises can help re-tone the area, but I also agree with Trills that your DH should get a bit more creative and work with you to find other ways to help you orgasm. Any chance of a night away together so there's a guarantee of no interruptions? Might help to kickstart things a bit if you can just concentrate on each other.

It could be many things - both physical and psychological.

And not being able to relax - and stressing about not orgasming - is the worst thing there!!!

If H is willing, and you are comfortable with it - i'd say experiment together.... Play around in different way, don't expect the 'old favourite' positions to be the best ones now.
Try to help yourself - during DTD - or show H how you do it, so he can help you.
It's all about finding what works for you, now.

Also - don't know how old your kids are - but it they are still tiny and you are often tired and stressed with them - that doesn't help.
But - it does get better!!!