Zero sex & drive (cerelle mini pill??)

[mamamia999]

Me and husband never have sex. After having our toddler son I thought that eventually it would get better. But it hasn't. If he ever approaches me I basically push him away or get out of it somehow. It's got to the point that I would almost feel weird now having sex, and he's giving up trying. Our toddler never sleeps so constantly knackered, I've piled weight in comfort eating so HATE my body and our relationship has been very strained due to other issues. But apart from that I'd read about an app Natural Cycles that you take your temp to check when ovulating i.e. Use that instead of my current Cerelle mini pill as contraception. When Googling subject a lot of people cited Cerelle /mini pill as killing libido. Anyone had this experience or got any other advice? thanks

My libido suffered terribly on the mini pill, so much so I stopped taking it and tell pregnant. Fortunately we were both happy at having DC3. I underwent sterilisation during her birth via c-section, as we were absoluty certain we didn't want any more. I wouldn't recommend such a drastic method for you but you should discuss with your GP or a practice nurse an alternative. What's the point in tolerating these side effects when you're not enjoying sex anyway? Are you experiencing any other side effects? I was depressed and moody often too.

As well as that develop an exercise regime. That'll really help your weight, self esteem and make you feel energised.

How's the rest of your relationship? Are you getting enough affection and intimacy away from sexual intercourse? There are so many ways to get close and intimate to reignite the spark.

Thanks happy bunny. Yes now I look back I think I have quite a lot felt very down & been moody but all these problems I've just automatically put down to being tired through my toddler never sleeping. We have plenty of affection and we do really love each other (despite having some issues) but this definitely has been putting a wedge between us. I never thought I'd be in this position, kind of feel (maybe wrongly) that sex should just happen and if you need to push it to happen something's not right. Totally agree about the exercise - I've suffered mild depression before and exercise was the best thing. Definitely going to stop taking this pill to see if that makes a difference, was quite surprised all the things I found on the pill affecting sex drive, can't believe I've never heard this before x

Yes it's totally killed my sex drive. I had the implant after ds was born but it made me a rage fuelled monster, so switch to the pill, it was so nice to have the fog lifted from the horrible implant that I haven't done anything about it.

I am also on diet and fitness kick as feel revolting so hoping that helps as well

I was readin somewhere about scent and how the pill dampens that down. So you lose that sense in terms of turning you on. I would ditch the pill, any form of hormones can knacker your sex drive.

Could you try the copper coil or cap? My friend has a cap and swears by it. She loves using it.

Definitely mini pill affected my libido! In a big way. Coming off it 18 months ago made me realise that. It's sad that doctors don't seem to realise this! I'd def recommend a different type of contraception for anyone concerned that the pill is stifling their sex drive. It's great you've sought some help with this on here because it might be really, really difficult for your husband... and you CAN learn to love sex again - honestly, you can xxx it may take a while and a few awkward moments but it will be worth it :-)