A question for all the men out there

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A simple question. If you could only choose one thing what would it be - sex or blow jobs?

I'm beginning to think DH prefers the latter, and just wondered if it makes him unusual (although I'm guessing just a bit lazy )

Depends on the quality of the sex and the effort that both sides put in. If it's good then sex for me every time

If I had 100 things on a sex list to choose from, the first to dump is 'blow jobs'. Never had one that makes me feel even remotely connected or happy.

Never met a partner who really wanted to do it to me either.

Always think it is odd, because for one thing I love, I just so love giving oral to a woman. I love feeling my around down there and those little signals between us as we writhe. Then afterwards the gentle spooning or lovemaking in other ways.

Strange then that I get my rocks off making a woman come with lots of exploratory oral, but I feel nothing myself in reverse. I just don't get why it is such a big thing with most other men.

Thanks for your thoughts. Lost I think it might be that he enjoys the easy life, and doesn't always want to put the effort in. To be fair, he's quite a bit older than me, so maybe tires more easily.

Sleeping just goes to show we're not all the same, eh?

Easy life for sure. It's just being lazy though. I love a BJ as much as most but nothing can beat intimate and fun sex

Blow jobs, if they're done right

Sex - much more intimate and mutually pleasurable.

I'd take the sex. I can still get my rocks off from lacklustre sex, I can't from shit BJ's!

However variety is the spice of life so I'd much prefer to be able mix it up lol.

Sex every time. Mutual pleasure.

It's not a real comparison Op i realise you were not being scientific, sex is lots of things. So to drop all of them for blow jobs is not likely. If the question ^was what

Sorry pressed Post by accident.

If the question was what is your favourite part of sex, my answer would be - blow job.

SleepingTiger you need to get a better practitioner. CaveWoman can make my legs shake, when she is giving me a blow job. As for meeting women who don't want to give you head, I feel very sorry for you. not sure if this is a stealth boast I used to go out with a girl who loved giving head, she was fantastic at it and actually orgasmed herself when I came. Gospel.
On accasion when asked about what makes a good blow job I always include enthusiasm.

"I include enthusiasm"

If any body is doing anything sexual to you out of duty that's gonna suck and probably a little non consensual as they don't really want to do it. So I agree honest enthusiasm is always going to be a turn on.

Sex / intercourse.

BJs are nice, but I prefer the mutual activity of intercourse.

I asked my husband and his preference was sex! But was quick to reply he doesn't want to lose blowjobs either 😂 Greedy buggar

My boyfriend said surely that's like asking you to choose between your children (if we had more than one!)

If he really had to he'd choose sex though. And we do have sex more often than he gets a blowjob to completion.

Well, the defined physical intensity of a blow job can be greater than penetrative sex, making the memory of them more acute - if that doesn't sound too pretentious, can anyone write about sex now, even if only a few lines of reply on a blog, without thinking of those annual bad sex writing awards? I have heard women say the same thing (more or less) about oral sex. However, I think the deep seated satisfaction of sex, with the bonding of love and lust, is ultimately the greater. So, sex. But the two together or rather the one following the other...

Sex for me.

If its good sex thats mutually satisfying then give me sex every time. A good fellatio session is always exquisite but the last thing i want is a woman to do it out of some kind of sense of duty. She has to enjoy it and relish it,the sense of control over her man and all that stuff.

My DP would definitely say BJs, it's his favourite thing in the world - helped by the fact that I love doing it and it turns me on too.

PIV sex is good sometimes, but is not the main event for either of us. I think being able to totally concentrate on giving or receiving pleasure makes it more intense.

There is something incredibly special about a BJ. But variety is the key. Not that I get any 😔

It would definitely be sex for me, BJ's are nice for a couple of minutes during a session but that's about it. It's probably linked to the fact that I know DW doesn't particularly like doing it (she doesn't hate giving them either) and if she's not enjoying something then neither am I. Conversely I love giving oral, almost every time have sex, it turns me on immensely to do it (and for her to receive).

There's obviously a bit of an oral mismatch there, but for either gender giving doesn't entitle you to receive, and we only do the stuff we both enjoy. Which is plenty.

A simple question. If you could only choose one thing what would it be - sex or blow jobs?

But why would you have to choose?
To us, oral sex in both directions is just part of sex. It's great and we both enjoy giving and receiving. But it's only part of making love.

Should have said I know this question was aimed at the men, but I'm certain this would be my DH's answer too.