I am 34, dp is 35, together 4 years.
3 years ago , dp had a vasectomy. Since then he's been completely disinterested in sex. We do it about once a month but I can tell his heart isn't in it, then I get self conscious. He also has erectile disfunction, he will go soft as soon as we get to the point of penetration.
He swears it's him not me, he loves me, etc etc and he is very loving in other ways, kisses and cuddles etc.
But I miss sex, I feel horrible , I feel undesired and undesirable. I've been overeating and I don't feel sexy or attractive at all.
Dp also takes antidepressants which I know suppress libido.
What should I do? Just accept no sex?