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Am I the only one who can't do 'girl on top'?

45 replies

Ilovespringandchocolate · 20/04/2017 23:03

As title really. I feel like a freak but I've just never been able to do it? I feel awkward, I don't know what I'm
meant to be doing, I HATE being gawped at and I've never, ever come from this position.

What am I doing (or not doing) that everyone else is?

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annandale · 22/04/2017 20:33

[jealous] at the idea of having to stop yourself coming...

LegoStarWars · 23/04/2017 09:29

I'm another one who has no sense of rhythm so I really struggle in this position. I just feel really awkward and uncoordinated.

sammylady37 · 23/04/2017 10:39

Lego, it's the same for me. I feel really awkward and ungainly and just cannot get a good rhythm going. It's sort of become a self fulfilling prophecy for me now cos anytime I do attempt it I have it in my head that I'll be crap at it and that knocks my confidence before I've even started

BoobleMcB · 23/04/2017 12:06

Far from it OP, I've met more women who aren't big on being in top. In fact, more that aren't than that are.

It's definitely a confidence thing I think though. It takes confidence for you to take control, if you like it then work on it and relax and just go with it, you'll get better. If you don't particularly like it then don't do it 😊

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Ilovespringandchocolate · 23/04/2017 16:19

Well this is the thing and why I posted. I don't know whether I'm 'good' at it or not? All I know is, I struggle to get clitirol stimulation from it, therefore, for me, no pleasure. So I was posting really, to see whether I'm the only one who can't seem to get clitirol stimulation from that position, and if I'm not, what on earth people are doing to get it!

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thebakerwithboobs · 23/04/2017 16:39

It's more g spot action on top for me-and that's why I can't do it for long because it is always game over really quickly. You're right, in that position, clit stimulation tends to have to come from you or him doing lovely extrasSmile

Gentlygrowingoldermale · 27/04/2017 16:26

NC for this.

It was either Emma Thompson or Julia Roberts who once observed that men don't really mind what you look like naked. 'Cos something nice is going to happen.

Probably spent over 35 years (second marriage) looking up and I'm sure I gawped, a lot, though I don't remember ever thinking of England!

It's what DW prefers and means hands free for me, which she also enjoys.

Yes, in latter years she did need to lie on me rather than sitting up the whole time, particularly when I became impotent and she worked herself against my pubic bone.

However, if you don't like it, don't do it.

That I've never not come in that position, indeed sometimes have found it difficult to hold on, beauty of the position is DW can keep going and get there. Sorry can't really help. I suppose you could lie on him and move body 90 degrees and back a few times.

DarcyParty · 29/04/2017 13:26

Youre not alone OP, my DP says my face looks like I'm doing paperwork in my head when I'm on top Confused.

I just can't feel anything, and he's well hung! He is my first sexual partner though, and I am very self concious, especially now I'm pregnant.

isobel79 · 29/04/2017 19:38

The thought of going on top makes me cringe and my other half is here tonightConfusedConfusedShock. Think I've tried it maybe a couple of times since I've been active

DalaHorse · 29/04/2017 19:45

You don't need to bounce up and down!!!
Just slide up and down without moving too much or too quickly. Think a horizontal sliding movement rather then a vertical one.

lovecreameggs · 30/04/2017 01:35

Do it on the sofa, so much better, that way you can grab the back of the sofa for traction and are so close he can't gawp. Make sure curtains are closed though

PaperdollCartoon · 30/04/2017 01:42

Everyone is different so we won't all like the same things, but me on top is the only way I can come during penetration without a vibrator. I don't usually bounce up and down (if I'm thinking about me) I grind onto him and that's what gives the clitoral stimulation. The nerves from the clitoris go several inches into the body and fork around the sides of the vulva, so grinding stimulates the nerves that way.

RedStripeIassie · 04/05/2017 11:33

I love it when I can be bothered to do all the work!
I know what you mean about feeling self conscious though. I'm mostly happy with my body but have hang ups with my post baby stomach. A sheer, sexy camisole type thing dress/nighty covers you but in a sexy way. Maybe that would make you feel a bit more confident.

KinkyAfro · 04/05/2017 22:08

I prefer being on top when he's sat down on the sofa, I can grind against him for clitoral stimulation and he gets a good faceful of boobage

BlondeB83 · 06/05/2017 22:18

I'm the same! Definitely need to practise more I think.

Stoneagemum · 06/05/2017 22:23

Don't bounce, grind, that way you get clit stimulation on his pubic bone

plantsitter · 06/05/2017 22:23

It is nice if you get him to use his thumb on your clit and then rotate your hips rather than -ahem- thrusting.

Not for too long though. Boring.

SpookyPotato · 10/05/2017 20:41

I've never enjoyed this position either, especially the bouncing up and down you see in porn. When I grind back and forth it's okay.. the only thing I do like is lying on him and him thrusting upwards! So basically he is still doing all the work Grin

Mrstumbletap · 28/05/2017 16:08

Have you tried it on a sofa OP? So he is L shaped and you can sit on him facing forward. He can't really gawp as you are really close but you get to rub on his pubic bone easily.

isobel79 · 30/05/2017 21:33

I've done it today and it was great!!!! Conquered my fear but I think it really helped as he made me feel so relaxed and it felt so natural ....... damm good in factGrinGrinSmile

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