Small penis sex

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Name change so not outted.

Started dating a new guy last month , really nice , get on great blah blah.

Anyways , had sex this weekend and it was a little bit of a disappointment .. about 3 , maybe 4 inches erect. The sex was ok... didn't really feel anything , not even on top . Now I feel that I'm psyching myself out and putting myself off him, even though he's great. I of course would never say anything to him about it , but was wondering if anyone's been in a similar position and how you dealt with it? Different positions etc?

Thanks guys

Indeed

Penis size-well it is much talked about and probably just as much lied about but why? It is what it is. It cant really be changed. If you have a small penis, well you will just have to live with it and if you are a woman who is with a guy who has a small penis and you are happy with it, fine. If its a deal breaker, find another nice guy with a bigger penis.

For smaller men, they can do a little to make things better. Keep fit, lose weight if you have any excess. Fat padding at the base of your penis makes it physically shorter !

Not being a woman i can only speculate but i would imagine a woman wants to feel filled and not just tickled. In the passion of love making she wants to feel truly fu*ed deeply and to be able to grip her partners cock inside her.

I guess the answer for men with smaller penis is to find a partner who is slim/petite and is therefore more likely to be a better fit?

They are all big enough to fill a pram but they are not all big enough to be mutually satisfying.

She should be able to 'grip' him no matter how small he is...

Elegantly put Manchester! But actually I agree, a good fit is the key. I'm pretty petite and in the past have found sex very uncomfortable and on occasion painful. Dh is smaller than average and it's brilliant!

Sex is important in a relationship, if it's not good for you, it's ok to look for someone else. If you don't think you've given him a proper chance, see him a few more times and maybe sexily suggest 'I like it when you.....'

It's a complete myth that all smaller more petite women have shallower, tighter vaginas.

Men come with different sized penises, women come with different sized vaginas, people like different things.

Try to find a way of having sex you both get enjoyment from, and if you can't then you'll just have to face that you're not compatible.

If you've only just started dating and it's not working then it probably is better to not take it further but that would apply with any issue as important as sexual compatibility in the early stages...

My dp is small - about 4-5 long and 4 around. I've never orgasmed from penetration alone with any partner, and all previous partners were larger.

We use toys and dp is very dirty! So I always orgasm and he does too. He knows he is small and it is part of our lovemaking. I do enjoy the experience and the fantasy of 'size' and we share that in our sex.

I'm not focussed on penetration so although size figures in my fantasy/masturbation world, it's not essential in my real sex world, although it is enjoyable, we use toys if I need to feel fuller.

Use the CAT technique ...?

What's the CAT technique? How/does it work, is it good?

I would very rarely have a vaginal orgasm. I don't expect to orgasm through PIV sex so a small penis is preferable to me. I have found guys with big cocks can sometimes be really arrogant and think they can just drop their trousers and think you're going to be wet at the sight of it

There are certain positions that are going to work better than others if you really want to feel the girth, as it were. Try him on top with your legs over his shoulders? From behind is also good for getting him in as deep as possible. Arch your back and really push back into him.

Did he make your orgasm prior to PIV with oral and/or fingering? That's far more important to me. Then PIV becomes the dessert course, if you like. Where you're already fully satisfied, but glad to see him enjoying himself!

If PIV is really important to you then I think you have to consider ending this now though. Because it's not like he's magically going to grow a bigger cock.

Futuristic
It's a position that causes pressure on the lady bits and size is irrelevant .

Coital alignment technique !

I'd say the 6 inches between the ears are as important as the 4,5,6,7,8 inches between the legs. If either of you think it's going to be a deal breaker, then it is! Unfortunately for some guys the porn industry has raised expectations way too high, in the same way as it has for girls although it's never mentioned as much.

I'm with AF. Penis size doesn't dictate how good someone will be in bed and threads like this are as unpleasant as ones about men who want to dump their new partners as a result of big vaginas/small breasts/stretch marks