No libido, Doctor no help

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Hi, I am 52 and a diabetic, but reasonably fit and healthy. I am on Metformin and Canagliflozin for Diabetes as well as Insulin, and I take Sertraline for depression.

I have no libido at all, sometimes I think sex seems like a good idea but as soon as DH gets close, I can't bear it. We probably have sex once or twice a year I am not happy with this at all and I want to be able to resume a normal sex life again. DH is lovely, and would never try and push me but I think he misses it too.

We are going away soon, on a special holiday to celebrate a big occasion and I would love to be able to be intimate with my lovely DH during this time, there will be no work pressures, no kids (who are quite grown up but still live at home) and no dog snoring at the bottom of the bed.

I went to see the Doc to see if I was menopausal, and I explained the situation. She did a blood test said I wasn't so there was no need for HRT, no further suggestions or help.

Can anyone suggest anything I can do / try please?

I'd say get a divorce. Life's too short, enjoy yourself, be happy and keep busy. Life is not all about sex. He deserves to be happy too, perhaps he might meet someone and you might meet someone you're more sexually compatible with.

Is your depression under control? Could be due to that. What is your general mood like? Sertraline can affect sexual function but so can undertreated depression

That's helpful andaluchia OP made it pretty clear that she WANTS to be intimate with her DH, and that she is not happy with her low libido and said nothing about wanting to meet someone else.

GlobeSpotter for you. I was on sertraline for a while and it killed my libido and ability to orgasm on the rare occasions I felt like it. I would get a second opinion from another GP and maybe try switching to a different antidepressant if you can.

Metformin killed my libido when I was on it, add to that the sertraline and it sounds like you've got yourself a libido killing cocktail :( I would go back and see a different gp but also Have you tried any herbal remedies to re set ballance? Not everyone's into them (I'm not a massive fan tbh) but Holland and Barrett have a few things that say they improve libido?

Depression,and the medication to treat it,diabetes and the medication to treat it are all libido suppressors. Also it's a catch 22,the less you have,the less you want. How is your self esteem? Perhaps try taking some time for yourself to increase your confidence and see if this helps. I'm on less for depression,and also type 1 diabetic,and have no desire whatsoever.

Thanks for the brilliant replies, it does seem like I'm on a libido killing cocktail. I don't think that divorce is really the option, I love my DH very much (most days ) but I think it's worth trying another doc., I've lost faith in mine over another unrelated matter anyway! We have a Holland & Barrett in town so i'll pop in there as well.

Agree you are on a libido killing cocktail.
Blood tests are not the basis for 'diagnosing' menopause for someone who is 52 ( see nice guidelines)
I hope you can find another doctor.

I so feel your pain. Am on sertraline + another libido killing med too, and, well, what to do?!?! Hobsons choice really, that's how I feel. Not like you can just throw away the meds and jump back n the sack, is it ?

My doctor has also been uninterested/ useless. Think you have to be pretty assertive to try different solutions but experimenting with alternative drugs also has its risks.

Are you going to be on the sertraline long term??

Antidepressants are total libido killers. Are you taking it for anxiety?