Does anyone swing on here?

[MadJeffBarn]

Me and dh have talked about it for years? and the idea turns us both on. We have an opportunity tonight to check out a swingers club, it's a monthly event that also happens to be on the weekend the kids are at their nans for the night and we don't have any solid plans. Plus we can afford it. But actually taking the plunge makes my stomach feel funny! Dh says let's go, I feel like it's not the sort of thing parents do. Even though I really want to try it. I'm so conflicted! Is the conflict a bad sign or a normal response?

Not on here, no. MNHQ would have a thing or two to say about it.

You dont actually have to participate even if you DO go you know. Swingers are usually very respectful of a "no thanks" and wont hassle you. You could go and just have sex with each other if you feel comfortable enough... theres no pressure to actually DO anything..

Sorry, is this not a suitable post? if not I can try and get it deleted, I thought the sex threads would be suitable :(

You say it's something you've talked about for years, great, but in what way? Have you discussed what both of you are comfortable with? Rules? How you will handle jealousy? Have you discussed at what point you leave, at what point you join in, what is and isn't okay within the boundaries of your relationship? If not, before you decide to go or not, I suggest you sit down and have a frank discussion about the very, very unsexy side of opening your relationship up. Swinging is great fun for some (not something I've participated in but I have previously been poly so do have an understanding). But for others, especially the unprepared, it can be the end of their relationship.

Yes there are a few on here.

If you are free and you feel you can do something together discreetly then why not just go out of curiosity.

Many places have private rooms so you could just be together if you get excited at what you see.

It's important to communicate well though. Perhaps agree that this time is for looking and discussing how you'd feel in other scenarios? Be very clear on what you will and won't do, and will and won't accept.

I think the fantasy and the reality might be a totally different thing. Only do it if you are 100% sure.

I'm just being a dick, sorry. Of course it's a suitable topic. It's just you asked if anyone swings on here. There aren't enough heterosexual men for starters, and you can't even offer a stranger an old paperback without being given a standard HQ warning. I'll bugger off now.

Ohhh shatner I'm so sorry, I'm just really nervous asking this question and I've misjudged posts and their reactions in the past so I tend to be a little anxious 😂 we've talked about it very openly and honestly. But it's hard to judge until you're in that situation. I'm not the jealous type at all, we both go our separate ways in clubs, we snog and dance with other people. We've even dabbled in 3rd parties. But it feels like a lot of pressure to go somewhere so sexually charged - you're all there for a reason. What if you bump into someone you know aswell? That's probably one of my worst fears!

So... did you go?