Love making vs F***ing

[DaddyDayCare82]

So DW and I were chatting through the size thread the other day and was interesting to see people's thoughts on the matter which got us to thinking again.

We both said that even when we want passionate slow sensual sex we always end up going for it at the end and both basically agreed we love lots of 4play with slow build up but she always preferred it slightly TMI alert harder to be able to reach orgasm.

More of another general wondering if we're alone in this or is it as I suspect NORMAL with most couples out there, it's certainly the case for a quickie but is it the case when you have time.

Urgh again.

Personally I prefer doing "our duty to the Party".

...oh, I'm sorry! So its ok on certain areas of Mumsnet to suggest the activities described are abusive, and women who encourage men in these areas are entitling men, to abuse...and in another area its just harmless fun. That's ok then. Thank you Naze for the informative comment by the way. Did it perchance comment on your own activities too closely?

I'm sorry user? So now if I choose to have sex in the way I enjoy in a mutually consensual respectful relationship I'm encouraging men in general to abuse?

Who the hell do you think you are constraining my choices for your screwed up controlling world view? Go away

Sorry after that rant back to the topic , I'm another sometimes I enjoy the start to be slow and sweet but it's so much fun having a good hard fuck

That's about it, yes. If a HH or Porn enthusiast for example, comes on Mumsnet saying how great there life is, its made clear by many posters that her choices effect many others to their terrible detriment, due to the entitlement it gives men. Same here. Sorry if questioning the right for your personal pleasure to override everything else makes you defensive...

Well this is a first...a woman not being able to enjoy consensual rough sex because she's not thinking of the sisterhood.

Are you one of those "all penetrative Sex is rape" believers User?

ineed user is on another thread suggesting oral sex is abusive. I think she may have a fondness for bridges, and living under them.

User, I can see you across many threads this morning almost going out of your way to upset as many people as possible.

Can I suggest we just ignore this toxic little bunny, it's probably just another Daily Mail Scumbag tabloid hack....

I spoke to one of my partners last night to see how they where feeling and they said. "to be honest, I could do with a good pounding right now" :) her words not mine :)

It just confuses me why people would read and respond to a post they have literally nothing constructive to offer, I'm literally gobsmacked that user views if my wife consentually asked me to fuck her hard from behind wilst spanking her ass suductively because it seriously turns her on and gets her off its somehow me abusing her without her will.... You've got very odd views I'm sorry

I think it's a bit odd that on a predominantly female parenting site there are some men who literally only ever post in sex and like to tell people how they like to fuck and ask others how they like to fuck.

Thank you Fighter, exactly. And in Daddys case, to tell us how impressive his winky is . Ah well,clearly trying to balance any point just brings accusations of Daily Mail scum bag- which I am not, by the way.

No one is around to answer you user, they are probably all off enjoying consensual oral, bum sex and light bdsm, and all of the other things you told them were unnatural and abusive.

User seriously you are either safely ensconced under a bridge (in which case get a life) or you really are the height of ridiculousness

More importantly your behaviour is offensive ....having spent a massive amount of time with women who have experienced sexual trauma and abuse I can tell you exactly what would happen if you spouted these ridiculous theories to them

Most of the sentences would end in "off"

Sighs in disbelief.

Abuse of women.

Is the programming, conditioning of women to produce children, therefore requiring them to perform the sexual act and then go one to be mothers and wives psychological abuse?
Is the programming and conditioning of women to be sex goddesses as portrayed in the media an abuse or can they choose to be what they want?
Women have equality nowadays and can therefore choose who they have consensual sex is that seen as abuse? and if so abuse of whom?

Is instigation of sex by females and how they like to have sex an abuse of the male?

Is the fact that romantic love as portrayed in movies and novels a programmed and conditioning technique perpetrated by men to have women believe that sex is ok and not an abuse?
Where does it end?
The suffragettes would be turning in their graves. So much for all the political campaigning and the burning of all those bra's

Two consenting adults engaged in sexual play is now portrayed as abuse.

Is this why when one masturbates it is called "self abuse"

Me thinks that the wrath of God will cast us into hell for even thinking such things.

If one or another of the sexual partners is not consenting then I would agree, it is abuse physically and psychologically, and I for one despise the men and women that commit these acts.

But I thought this thread was about consenting adults and how they like to perform the sexual act.

Once again sighs!!

think it's a bit odd that on a predominantly female parenting site there are some men who literally only ever post in sex and like to tell people how they like to fuck and ask others how they like to fuck

^ Exactly this 🙄

Methinks some tomfoolery is going on in this thread. Abandon ship everyone - pointless.

I've never had an orgasm and never will from banging at it, doesn't make any biological sense to my lady parts! Just not built that way. I like it though it is fun but if it's only hard and fast then I will be left very unsatisfied so I have to have both

A couple of guy have asked me "do you want to make love"

Once I finished vomiting I explained that my fanny had now gone dry and we would not be having sex until I'd recovered from my involuntary trip back to the 1970s.

I would put on some WetWetWet or Ronan Keating and gaze into their eyes and see whether they still felt up for it

not I think mine would just shrivel up into itself if a man asked me that. Like some kind of vortex.