Size

[DaddyDayCare82]

The age old question!! "Does it matter"
Me and my DW were chatting the other day and again tonight about size and if it actually matters, she's lucky enough that she can orgasm through both clitoral and vaginal stimulation (well so she tells me) but i posed the question that how can it actually matter when from the things we read on here and in life that most women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation??!
So I said I'd ask the lovely ladies and gents of MN their views?!

I can honestly say that I have never measured.
I think it is something that men are far more obsessed by than women.
There are so many other factors that are significantly more important when it comes to having good sex, and that is achievable with any normal average size penis.

I think girth is more important than length for me personally and getting properly hard. But having had a very large sized girth/length penis in my ex it could be too much to take at times and didn't fit well in my mouth.

But overall even a giant penised man can be terrible in bed so I am happy with average and good technique in all areas.

I am lucky as my DP has a wider than average one it's probably 7 or so inches long so doesn't ram my cervix. Blow jobs aren't impossible.

I have had good sex with smaller and less wide, I honestly do think size can be irrelevant but then I feel like I like a wide one

Daddy im intrigued about the Google reference. Did you type girth of my cock in? 😂😂😂

I can't get my middle finger and thumb to touch when erect, it's the same girth as my wrist. It's 17cm (6.75 ish inches).

About 8.5-9 inches in length from the top.

We had to buy made to measure condoms. 😳

I was going to say! 4.59'' girth seems small.

I have small wrists so can touch my fingers together around them but I can't quite touch fingers wrapped around his penis.

Poor bloke when I first met him had been using regular condoms his whole life and wondering why they left marks and were so uncomfortable.

He's not big enough to need made to measure Ines though 😝
There are two larger sizes than standard so to need anything bigger than that yours must have a proper monster cock. Lucky lady 😂

Last 2 posts made me giggle. If i ever measured mine it was so long ago i cant remember and no partner has ever measured it.

That said my wrist is 18cm... though of course a wrist is wide and flat.

I did find a hand wash bottle 18cm girth and blimey!

I know difficult, when my DP said he didn't get on with condoms very well, I eye rolled with a "nice try sunshine"' in my head.

Then I saw for myself.

So we tried the made to measure.

How people get them on their heads, I don't know.

inneed&difficult I didn't say I was 4.59, I said that was the average, the average length is 5" and I'm not that either..😀
My DW measured me last night as we were both laughing about it... Happy to report bigger than average on both fronts!!! 🍆😂

I think the bigger ones feel better but tbh it really is about what you do with it. I've had fantastic sex with a guy who was tiny (think finger-sized) and meh with enormously well - endowed. All about who's attached to the penis really.

9 out of 10 prostitutes prefer small cocks.

IN my personal life I'd say long cocks = arrogant idiots who have no idea how to shag, they just think saying "hop on this love" will be a real panty dropper.

I would 100% prefer dealing with micro penis than trying to deal with a massive one. BTW anything over 7" for me is too big.

It's expected of them to do anal on a daily basis too so not surprising

I'd agree that within the average range it makes no difference and most women would not think much about it. I have certainly never thought of taking measurements!

It is absolutely what you do with it and probably even more what you do NOT with it. I'd take a guy with a slightly smaller penis who was great at foreplay and oral and cared about my pleasure over a big guy who just wants to bang away any time.

That said I have had one partner who I found a bit disappointingly small (and not enough technique to make up for it). It was girth more than length that I missed. I rarely orgasm just from penetrative sex but that doesn't mean I don't like the feeling and it was lacking.

I also had one lover who was really huge. Honestly the size of a horse and frankly that was scary and a bit painful. I hated giving him oral which usually I love as It would make me gag and doggy style was a worry- getting your cervix bashed hurts like hell. Often after sex I'd feel like my insides had been rearranged. He said most of his partners complained and he actually wished it was a bit smaller.

I've usually found the size of the penis proportionate to the size of the man. Slightly too small guy was only a little taller than me and a very lean rock
climber. Much too big guy was a 6ft 6 rugby player.

Circumcised or not I don't care much but slight preference for circumcised as I think it looks nicer and I imagine is cleaner.

There seems to be an assumption on these threads about penis size that men with large appendages neglect foreplay. I'm very happy to confirm my err rather large dp is probably more careful to ensure I'm ready than the average sized men I knew previously. He says it not only helps make it more fulfilling for me, but would be painful for him if not prepped enough. It's perfectly possible to know how to use your tongue and penis regardless of size.

I agree with you happybunny, I love going down on my wife. And she loves me there too

Absolutely HappyBunny my DP feels the same.

Incidentally he's super thin/wiry so I think it knocks the statistics about bigger framed guys.

And his shoe size is pretty normal too.

His hands are massive though 🤔

I think it can matter but I'm not sure if it does for me. Dp is on the small side, 4.5 inches long, 4.25 inches around - he enjoys SPH - so we have measured...
All my previous partners were larger but all a long time ago.
We've been together years and have tried many toys, strapons, extensions etc etc. My favourite toy is longer than him and thicker, but not huge, probably 7 x 5. We've tried toys which were vey girthy and probably up to 8 inches long.
As I've said to him, I've enjoyed them all at the time, but I don't crave them and never asked for the biggest again.
I do have a lowish libido. Once a week orgasm is fine for me and once I've come, I have no desire to go on trying to come again.
DP has great fingers and mouth and I always come first - unless I don't want to.
Larger does give me more sensation without a doubt but I don't think, even if I had a bloke with a 7 incher available 24/7, that I would actually want any more sex - not simply because of his size.
A dick simply being bigger wouldn't make me want it more frequently, I don't think.
I think levels of desire are hard to adjust but big ones are great for fantasy and sensation in the heat of the act, as long as the bloke is nice, otherwise a big dildo does the job just as well.

Haha inedmorelemonpledge my oh only takes a size 8 shoe, I always joke he should fall over at 6' tall. The shoe size theory is rubbish.

Someone further upthread mentioned problems with standard condoms. I remember doubting my dp protesting he couldn't use condoms when we were first together years ago. I was convinced he was being useless or trying to avoid it, but I tried putting one on and it was ridiculous, wouldn't even stretch round it. Fortunately now there are brands offering larger sizes on the market that are fine.

I used to think an average size was perfectly sufficient, and indeed with the right other skills it is, but now I've been spoilt I don't want to go back to average

We've used larger condoms as part of our SPH teasing/playing. It really turns my dp on to have me try to put a larger one on him and then have to find a really small one to fit him.

Can I just chip in, and say that it's not just about penis size, it's also about the size of the man who is the owner of the said penis! Sex with a man who weighs 10 stone is crap, compared to sex with a Rugby player type who weighs 20 stone. It's all about the size of the hammer on the nail, iyswim.

Uff not for me Husky - my STBEXH was a rugby player and very heavy. Now I am with lighter DP I much prefer his lithe body and ability to be flexible in positions, rather than the sweaty dead weight of my ex on top of me, or struggling to get my legs over his thighs, or on top of him.

Still...horses for courses and all that...!