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Crying after orgasm

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MustBookADentistAppointment · 25/01/2017 23:30

Anyone else? Sometimes after an orgasm I cry. Not for a particular reason and I don't even feel particularly sad, it just suddenly happens. This can be if I'm alone, or with someone. I have a FWB, and it got slightly awkward last time it happened, I couldn't stop! Anyway, is this a thing? Or am I just weird? I'm fairly happily single, don't want more from my FWB and it's only started happening fairly recently.

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purpleporpoise · 25/01/2017 23:31

Occasionally this has happened to me, no idea why

LucyLocketLostIt · 25/01/2017 23:32

I think it might be a thing. I've had it too.

charlestrenet · 25/01/2017 23:33

Are you secretly Chris Martin? It could be really secret so that you don't even know it yourself.

LucyLocketLostIt · 25/01/2017 23:34

Apparently it's called post coital dysphoria.

Jaguarana · 25/01/2017 23:36

I do this sometimes, I think it's just a release of tension & emotion.

Shenanagins · 25/01/2017 23:37

Had it once and am convinced it was the time I conceived with my second child.

MustBookADentistAppointment · 25/01/2017 23:40

Charles Grin** I am fairly certain I'm not Chris Martin.

Glad I'm not the only one! It's really inconvenient though. Yes to being a release of built up emotion - but could I not just have a cathartic cry once a week to a film instead? It would be so much easier and more convenient than spontaneously crying after sex... Wink

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MustBookADentistAppointment · 25/01/2017 23:42

Shenanigans, I really really hope I haven't just conceived. That would really put a spanner in the works!

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YouMeanYouForgotCranberriesToo · 25/01/2017 23:44

I had this once when pregnant with dd1 and once again recently. In both cases we hadn't had sex for a while (first time about 5 months and last time 1 month). Last time I started laughing and crying. I wasn't sad, but I did feel full of all sorts of emotion and like the laughter and tears was releasing it.

BlairWaldorfxOxO · 25/01/2017 23:45

I've had similar where i hysterically laugh... Not ideal!

IamAporcupine · 26/01/2017 13:19

it happens to me too but i tend to feel quite sad at the same time.
i never understood what it was

CaptinMuma · 26/01/2017 18:34

This has happened to me before too.

Afterthestorm · 26/01/2017 20:24

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SpikeWithoutASoul · 26/01/2017 20:31

This happens to me too. No reason. Sort of physical release I think. DH, however, believes it's because I am so moved by the beauty of him in all his glory. Grin

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 27/01/2017 19:06

Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I cry, sometimes I feel nauseous, sometimes I can't be touched, sometimes I just want to stop and have a cuddle.

I just guess it's one of those things, tension, hormone release, mood.

Just like the lottery really, you never know what you'll get! Grin

happystory · 27/01/2017 19:15

In French it's 'la petite mort' which I assume means small death which might explain something?

thecapitalsunited · 27/01/2017 20:45

I have both cried and laughed after a good orgasm. Once I was hysterical and DH got quite worried because I didn't seem able to stopped and nearly laughed myself sick.

A lot of the time after orgasm I just feel so full of love that I'm going to burst. The first time I felt like that was with DH and I sort of had this moment of realisation about why some people think you should only have sex within marriage. It's such a powerful thing when you have deep feelings for each other because it does act as an emotional release. Not that sex can't be great with a FWB or a ONS but for me it just feels like so much more.

Sallystyle · 27/01/2017 23:51

I cry about 8 times out of 10.

The first time I cried dh looked really concerned and worried. It was the first time we had sex and thought it must have been awful as no one has ever cried on him before.

Now he just hugs me and I have a good cry for a bit. I have no idea why I'm actually crying.

user87654321 · 28/01/2017 18:26

I have this. And I could never understand why. I then traced my sexual history back & I think mine stemmed from my first love. He dumped me. But he wanted to see me one last time. We had sex & I just remember crying all the way through it, knowing that would be the last time I ever saw him. Looking back, I think it was pretty shit to invite me back for a 'farewell' fuck, but I guess I was just as complicit.

It has happened with men I love but never with fuck buddies. For me, I'm sure it dates back to that one incident.

elQuintoConyo · 28/01/2017 18:29

It happened to me a fair few times. No reason, just an explosion if everything!

MustBookADentistAppointment · 28/01/2017 21:03

Right, so I'm deffo not just strange! I'm 'working through some stuff' at the moment, so maybe it's just that I'm emotional?!

Saw FWB again this afternoon and all was fine. Sobbed my heart out at Brokeback Mountain last night though...

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Proseccopanda · 28/01/2017 21:38

It happens to me if it's been a particularly intense session.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/01/2017 06:33

I feel like crying most times. In my case, I do genuinely feel sad but I don't know what about.

EliCon · 31/01/2017 09:35

I think it is normal and there is nothing wrong with you. As long as you know in yourself that you are crying for no particular reason, it is no problem at all. It is just a way for your body and emotions to handle the hyperjumpiness of the situation :)

TheLegendOfBeans · 31/01/2017 09:41

It's the release. I'm quite tense as a person and teeter on the brink of laughter/crying after orgasm.

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