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spicing things up

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CraftyGirly90 · 23/01/2017 18:59

I want to spice things up in the bedroom but don't know what to try. I get a bit embarrassed sometimes and my OH won't talk about it really or take it seriously. Just wondering what others do to make things interesting in the bedroom?

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TheNaze73 · 23/01/2017 19:45

I think it depends on your starting point?

If (and I don't mean this in a disrespectful way) things are quite vanilla, maybe toys or light bondage would be a starting point. If things are slightly up the scale from that, maybe a prostate massage or pegging?

CraftyGirly90 · 23/01/2017 20:52

Things are mostly vanilla with us. We have used toys before but mostly on me, usually when he's tired or his 'you know' doesn't want to play ball (so to speak). The last time we used them was a long while ago though unfortunately x

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LittleOyster · 24/01/2017 23:21

TheNaze is right, it's hard to comment without knowing your starting point, and of course what you like.

Even if, like me, you're not hugely into the idea of toys, bondage, etc. there's still loads you can do to make things that little bit hotter.

Why don't you try jumping your OH's bones somewhere other than the bedroom? You could straddle him on the sofa, start snogging on the stairs, or something like that. Failing that, move your bedroom mirror so it's aligned with your bed. I find watching us DTD really intensifies things.

What about talking dirty to him, or would that be too embarrassing? You can't go wrong moaning something about his cock (how good, hard, etc. it feels).

Otherwise, blow jobs? You could change it up a bit from how you usually do them, so extra sloppy, ball-licking, lots of eye contact - whatever's different from the norm.

What about sexting your husband during the day? In the past, I've had partners who texted me details of what they intended to do with me later, and that was a hugely exciting.

Good luck OP. Hope you have fun.

CraftyGirly90 · 25/01/2017 09:35

See I would like to talk dirty to him but that's where I get a bit embarrassed and bottle it before I've even started

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Happybunny19 · 25/01/2017 11:57

If you're too embarrassed to start the dirty talk in person try starting with texts while he's at work. I've recently started doing this because I was a bit self conscious too, but it's a brilliant way to build up to a wild evening and he loves it. Could you try hiding your embarrassment with a bit of roleplay? That's a great way to change the usual routine too. Mostly though, have some fun!

LittleOyster · 25/01/2017 14:44

Could you just start with a bit of moaning, 'mmm, that feels so good', etc and build up from there? Then you can gauge what your OH likes.

If you're ok with watching porn, why not get your OH to show you some favourite clips? Might help you work out what you both like.

Totally understand your frustration, OP. Whenever I've suggested getting a little darker in the bedroom, it's always been met with exactly the response you've had. I think a lot of blokes struggle to talk about this stuff. Best just take matters into your own hands and corrupt him! Grin

MightyFine79 · 25/01/2017 20:05

The board game "Monogamy" gets really good reviews for exactly this. We've just bought it but haven't had an opportunity to play yet. Soon.

Proper dirty talk always feels a bit awkward to us but we do like to talk about sex, things like "tell me about the first time you ever masturbated". It feel less contrived that way.

We love out and about, but don't often get a chance now days. Stopping the car on the way home from a night out for a bit of fondling (or more) can be really thrilling. Just watch out for the dog walkers!

CraftyGirly90 · 25/01/2017 21:47

HappyBunny I've tried suggesting role-play but just get met, again, with daftness and I have tried the texting thing but 9 times out of 10 he won't get the messages til he gets home. Although he is away atm so might try again later.

LittleOyster I'm ok(ish) with watching porn but my OH really doesn't like it, in the past I have suggested watching it together but get told its not something that has ever bothered him. Which is really frustrating. When you say corrupt him, what do you mean? X

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CraftyGirly90 · 25/01/2017 21:51

MightyFine I've seen that game and not really thought about getting it as thought maybe it wasn't the sort of thing we'd use, but may just go for it next time I'm paid. See the idea of out and about is something we might give a try (if we were brave enough) if we had a car, sadly neither of us drive so would be more open to dog walkers x

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LellyMcKelly · 14/02/2017 02:52

What about gorgeous lingerie or a sexy crotchless bodysuit (they're like fishnets- you can get them on Amazon for about £5). If you don't want to do outright sexy talk, how about buying a new bra, putting it on then sending him a pic asking 'I've got a new bra. What do you think?') I've found men (or mine anyway)tend to enjoy visual attractions, so wearing a thin top with no bra or 'accidentally' dropping something and bending over to pick it up always goes down well, as does going down well. Things like 'moisturising' your naked breasts with baby oil in front of him, or unzipping his trousers and sucking his cock while he's watching TV.

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