Breasts in foreplay after breastfeeding

[SickRose]

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So I'm currently pregnant with my first and am hoping to breastfeed. However, my boobs are a large part of foreplay for me and my DH and I can't help but think about how it will be once they have had a different role. Can anyone please give me some insight as to if and when their boobs went back to being a part of sex? Or will I have to break the news that they'll be out of bounds forever? We're already struggling with the first trimester pains!

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Hiya congratulations! In my experience and friends, if you're breastfeeding the baby has priority for a while but then normal service is resumed

I am still breastfeeding my one year old. Before we started her on solids I would occasionally leak milk during foreplay and sex but haven't for some months now. Depending on how soon after feeding DD it is I sometimes don't want quite as much breast related foreplay as I normally do.
Basically, my boobs make baby food at some times of the day, and they are part of my sexual life at others.

For me they never stopped 'being part' of sex.

I guess you'll need to be gentle if they're a bit sore, but other than that, why would it be a problem? Sex and breastfeeding are both totally normal things to do with your body - why do you think you feel they might be incompatible?

I BF up to 19m
Tbh I personally went off any boob related stuff but DH wasn't bothered. I used to just say 'please don't you suck them too!'
I think for me it was squeamishness that I'd leak while he was doing anything, and a feeling that they were DD's providers, not a sexual organ at all, anymore.
Once I'd stopped BFing that feeling went away almost immediately and I now enjoy it. In fact it's more enjoyable than before.

I'm still breastfeeding my 8 month old and my boobs started feeling like sex baubles again once the engorgement subsided. I've been really lucky and have never really leaked though, so that helps. Losing my baby weight has also meant they've gone back to a normal size, thank goodness as I discovered I absolutely hate having enormous ones. I can wear normal bras again too, which helps me feel like normal and attractive again.

They feel so alien at first they won't feel like your normal boobs but it doesn't carry on like that for the duration of breastfeeding.

I can remember during one romantic and intimate encounter screaming at DP "will you just fucking latch on and stop pissing about with them"

I think I was missing the point.

Many years later normal service has resumed. It takes a while but you develop a new normal. My DP genuinely prefer my post baby body, he knows why it is like it is and loves it because of that iyswim.

Mine were completely off-limits while I was in the later stages of pregnancy and while I was breastfeeding. The slightest stimulation and I would start leaking! I kept my bra on during sex with breast pads in place, otherwise I would have been swimming! That eased off after the first 6 months but I couldn't have him playing with them while I was still breastfeeding.

Post BF things went back to normal...during they were out of bounds.

Sorry I posted and disappeared. Sleeping so much since I've been pregnant!

I think I just found it difficult to get my head around. The thought of looking down and seeing a baby on my boob vs looking down and seeing my DH! It's good to know that it does all go back to normal though. I think I'd miss losing that erogenous zone!

Mine never stopped being a part, even when I was still breastfeeding. I was lucky to not be much of a leaker though!

Been married well over 20 years. For roughly 2 years of that I didn't enjoy breast related foreplay due to breastfeeding. Point is, it is a small blip in a lifetime relationship, it soon goes back to 'normal'.

Power through it!

I had such confusing thoughts when I breastfed.

Slightly aroused at the feeling when DS was feeding

Then like you say feeling a bit disgusted when STBEXH was there like a giant bald baby.

But I think it was mainly relationship issues.

It took a whole new partner for me to get back into it.

I hope you manage to begin enjoying it again.

Just remember that like your mouth and your vagina, your breasts can play different roles depending on what you are doing.

For me, bf just ruined the sensation during sex and I've never wanted to really bring my boobs back into sex. It's just a horrible feeling. Bummer but there you go. Hate having them sucked now.

Never went back for me. Ruined it really. Mind you I did do it for 6 years non stop pretty much in all.

Uhoh. Looks like it can go both ways! That's a good point though at how other body parts have sexual and functional use. I'll try and keep that in my mind when it comes to it!

I aged boob foreplay while breastfeeding. But then normal service resumed when I stopped

That should say I hated!

I've breastfed my DD for 18m now and my boobs are a big part of our foreplay too. I used to leak a little milk during foreplay/sex, however it has never bothered DH.

They recently started leaking again during sex but I think that's due to me being pregnant again.

My boobs we back being a part of foreplay around 6 weeks postbirth. The first time we dtd I felt a bit odd but I think that was generally just because it was the first time since becoming a parent.

After my first baby, including boobs in sex felt weird but after my second it's become a really integral part of our sex life. I'm not sure what has changed, maybe I've just more used to it? I've breast fed both children for over a year and my younger one for two years so it's beyond the new baby stage.

DH had to be very careful when I was BF DS as mine were quite sensitive. If I leaked it never bothered DH & was a relief when I was particularly swollen!