Am I weird

[firewalkeruk]

Before I ask this I have to say that I am not trying to shock or upset anyone with this topic. Also this isn't a way for me to get a thrill I just need a perspective on this.
So I am a married man of 51 who has only ever had a sexual relationship with one woman.
We met when I was 19 and she was 27 and in a disintegrating marriage. We have been together for over 30 yrs and our sex life was good until my DW hit the menopause. We are still sexually active but it is sparse and my wife has body issues although I think she is gorgeous and as sexually appealing as she ever was.
Our relationship has been monogamous although my wife did have a short affair early in our relationship, she has been faithful and loving to me ever since and I love her deeply.
We have tried various things in our sex life but nothing more experimental than a little light bondage, I like to be dominated.
Recently I have had a strong urge to preform oral sex on my wife immediately after I ejeculate. When I told her this she pulled a face and said she thought it was 'gay'. I have never considered myself gay or bi and have no inclination towards other men. Also I do not want anyone else involved in our relationship and would not want to do this if another man was to ejeculate in my wife, I don't have cuckold fantasies.
Is this 'gay' as my wife suggests? Should I try broaching the subject again, I don't want to coerce her into doing something she feels weird about.
We do incorporate oral sex in our routine from time to time, so maybe I should just go for it and see if she likes it?
Any advice would be welcome.

No it's not gay it's a personal preference.

The only issue is whether she's comfortable with it.

No it's not gay. It's ridiculous to suggest that liking a sexual act makes someone gay. Being gay is about being sexually attracted to a person of the same sex as you.

I'd mention this again another time with your DW. It sounds like it took her aback and she didn't respond positively. She may well be more open to it after giving it some thought.

However, if she's not up for it then you must accept that.

I've done what you describe on occasion. It was fine, both DW and I enjoyed it, and as far as I can tell I'm not gay. Your DW could perhaps have been a bit less blunt, but if she's not up for it then she's not up for it.

Hi OP, It doesn't make you gay but it sounds like your dw isn't keen on the idea. I would assume that the desire to do it is tied in with your preference for being submissive, more specifically the humiliation aspect of being a sub. If you explain it again with reference to this she may revise her previous opinion of the act. That doesn't mean she'll be any more keen on it though.

I dont think its weird at all

I fail to see how exactly this makes you gay. Honestly, I find it more strange that she would suggest such a thing, although I guess she doesn't quite your reasoning. Just communicate more I guess?

Unusual yes, but not gay.

Maybe try pointing out that the thing that makes a sexual activity 'gay' is if both parties involved are the same sex. Not sure why she would think any sex between a man and a woman could be gay.
The main problem is that she doesn't like the idea, and nobody should be coerced into doing anything they're not comfortable with.

Not weird and i quite like the idea of it :)

Not weird at all.

Huh! How is giving a man giving a woman oral sex gay?

It shows you are still concerned about her pleasure after you've had yours. I'd be really delighted if my OH wanted to do this. Not likely. You sound considerate and not at all weird.

Do you mean you want to perform oral sex on her after you've ejaculated inside her? Or just in general?

Not my cup of tea if that's what you mean but no your not weird just like different experiences.

No you're not weird. My BF does this and it's HOT AS FUCK.

Your wife sounds pretty close-minded, sorry.