1 year!

[sexlessmarriage]

So, for the first time since I was 17, I've not had sex for a whole year! I'm married and going through a long rough patch. I really miss sex, I'd have it daily if i could so to have a year drought is a killer. Anyone in a similar boat?

No but, it sounds awful, you have my full sympathy OP.

Have you tried to address the root cause, with your partner?

Yes. Fed up of initiating and all for his fulfilment. No pleasure for me. Am looking to get out...

Naze - not** really, I find it very difficult
Iron - how long has it been for you?

I feel so unattractive

Since June and healthy probably a year before

Gagging is an understatement. How sad.

Six months here. Figuring out how best to end the marriage (for this and plenty of other reasons). And yep I fantasise about sex every day and masturbate every time I get the chance.

Iron / Lego - sorry to hear your in a similar situation, how did we get here?!

I get upset even watching physical contact on the tele as I long for it, not just the sex but the hugging, kissing and all just the closeness.
What I'd do for a snog!

Sigh......

I'd just like to say that the Daily Mail is an absolute bullshit rag which is too fucking lazy to come up with actual news stories.

As you were .

Chapstick are you suggesting I'm the daily mail? Lol

No, sorry for derail, I just saw your thread and thought it was exactly the sort of thing the DM would put on its website these days. Which I'm sure is the last thing you need. It happened to a Relationships thread and gave me the absolute rage.

Apologies for sending the thread off track. Hopefully it's now offputting enough for them that you can continue your discussion without fear of ending up in the papers!

The Times is a good read. Spend £10 in Waitrose on a weekday (not difficult) and you get it free if you have a My Waitrose card.

4 years married for 5next week. Hare sex so glad to see the back of it

Hate!

No there's no way I or we could put up with that. If there's no health issues are you actually happy with each other or is there other issues within the relationship stopping you just coming onto your partner tonight? Or would you be turned down?

I wouldn't blame someone for leaving a marriage for lack of sex for that long.

Eggnog id be turned down for sure we're not in the same bedroom either at the moment and can't even tempt him back in!

So why not talk to him? If you can't even do that then your marriage is dead in the water and you might as well end it now, surely?

Don't know where to start Pottering, so maybe your right

I feel your pain, it's so very lonely when you feel your not wanted in that way. For years I thought my husband had a low sex drive, turned out he didn't, he had a porn addiction. It got to a very bad place when I found out last year but that's a whole other thread! ..we can go months without it but the longest was 10months but we were on a sex ban from the docs whilst I was pregnant! Communication is key, I realise now we are both very shy people in that respect and we have to really make an effort now to initiate it. The best idea we had was a sex box.. we wrote sex fantasy/ideas one night in secret and put them in a tin. Sex on the stairs, eat dinner off each other, dress up... that kind of thing.. it's amazing when we do it, but it doesn't solve everything! It generally takes for me to break down on him feeling unwanted and lonely for us to open up and be close again. You must talk to him openly about how you feel, for your own sanity. It's not right to repress your feelings, you are worth more than that.