Ideas to improve libido? 😔

[Flingmoo]

Basically I have a lovely, caring and sexy husband who in my mind, I really want to shag, but unfortunately my sex drive is really low and I can't get in the mood.

I am currently pregnant so can't resort to alcohol to loosen up. Pregnancy not to blame though - it's been like this for a long time although I suppose it's slightly worse at the moment.

Can anyone suggest anything as not only do I fee sorry for DH, I'd also like to enjoy it for my own sake too. Once we actually get started I nearly always enjoy it so I can't understand why I find it so hard to get in the mood.

I'm sorry I can be of no help to you, but I feel the same sometimes! It's a bit better now I'm not taking the pill (obviously this won't be the same scenario for you as you are currently pregnant) but since stopping the pill I feel my libido has improved. Also place marking for other ideas! Congratulations on the pregnancy!

I read saucy literature. Literotica.com

Reading some stories on literotica is a great idea. If you often find you do enjoy it once you've started, you really have to make it happen more often. The more you do it the more you want it normally.

Having said that I wouldn't necessarily advise this while you're tired and pregnant. I have a pretty high libido normally, but it died during pregnancy. My lovely dp wasn't bothered as he knew it was a temporary thing.

If you are both affectionate with each other and able to talk about your needs openly I wouldn't worry too much. Has your husband complained or are you just assuming it is bothering him?

He hasn't issued a formal complaint but he does sometimes grumble a little bit "you're never in the mood..." I do find that a bit hurtful as I it's not never, it's anywhere from one a month to once a week. It's not like he's completely sex deprived.

But if I put myself in his shoes and imagine wanting sex with my lovely husband and him rejecting me most of the time, I think I'd be disappointed and grumble too.

He knows I have a lower sex drive and that I'm often too tired at the end of the day. It's just a shame we can't have matching libidos. I'm pretty sure he'd happily do it nearly every night if I was up for it!

Having said that maybe I should discuss it with him again and see if it's a big problem for him or just a minor frustration.

I'm not pregnant but having a similar problem for a long time. My DH bought me a beautiful book of erotic literature (at my request) for Christmas and I'm planning to try reading it before bed. I also can't relax because the house is small and the DC are often awake when we go to bed so we've got a large beanbag we can have downstairs to make it a bit more comfortable if we want to try and relax away from the kids. As I said, I'm not pregnant but no longer drink at all. I used to use alcohol to try and relax more but even then, it didn't change the fact my libido was MIA it just made it easier to take enthusiasm long enough to get started. It's frustrating in many ways because I do find DH very attractive still I just can't get the relevant parts of my anatomy to get with the program!