New partner and struggling to orgasm

[TygerLeopard]

2 years after my marriage ended I have found a wonderful new partner. I fancy him and he turns me on, and he's considerate and attentive in bed. But he can rarely get me to come, I get close but it just doesn't happen. The thing is my ex could always get me to come quickly and repeatedly and I was with him a long time.

I'm thinking it's in my head really as it used to work. I've tried myself and it's an effort too. It's bothering me and I don't want to tell him as it would be cruel to make comparisons. That said, he's agreed it's difficult to get me 'over the edge'. We're only a few months in so probably still getting used to each other and me to a new relationship. Advice please?

Relax and enjoy it!
Hopefully it will sort itself out in time.

Do you masturbate at all (not with him) Do you still manage to get there yourself?
Would a vibrator help?

I am in a similar situation, I stay so close to the edge for a long time and give up!

Why don't you masturbate in front of him, showing him exactly what you like?? Cushions for PIV....??
All women are very different & a one approach fits all, is where he's going wrong

If you were with your ex for a long time, you probably got used to one way of sex, and that led to one method of reaching orgasm. You are now planting your flag with different partners, and you'll need to evolve different techniques. This isn't a slight on you, nor on your partner, but simply an acknowledgement that all sexual relationships are individual.

My personal tip is that if you don't currently shave your bush, shave it, and get him to go down on you. you would not believe how different it feels.

Are you doing exactly what you were doing with your ex? If not, then guide your activity in that direction and it should be easier.

I think you just need to keep trying with different positions and different activities. And masturbating. With my ex I came every single time in a certain position. With another man multiple times with various different things. With my husband completely different things. I think different men have different shaped bits and it's finding what works between you.

It takes time to relax with a new partner. Your orgasms start in your head. You need to feel totally comfortable and relaxed, and you're not there yet.

Putting pressure on yourself will only make it harder.

I suggest spending a good day together out and about holding hands and kissing and flirting, a nice dinner, getting a little bit drunk/stoned, watching erotic movies or reading erotic books, getting yourselves relaxed and turned on, talking to each other about what you want, building up the anticipation so you're halfway there before he even touches you. Foreplay starts hours before you even take your clothes off.