Sti's

[Crankycunt]

I can't be arsed to name change so here goes. I had been seeing someone for a couple of months, it was fun. However he has given me herpes, yay.

I've been diligent with my check ups, my last one was last year, and until him I hadn't had sex for a year.

It's so painful, and I'm going to have this for the rest of my life how am I going to tell future partners? I am absolutely gutted.

I feel for you. I was probably given it by the woman who is now my wife. We'd been together about 18 months at time. She had no idea she had it but as Herpes can be dormant for years it is also possible I gave it to her.

So I wouldnt get hung up on Blame and as for protection, i am more likely to get sores on my balls than cock so condoms wouldn't be effective.

As for tests, when i went to the clinic with a sodding great sore the test still came back negative. You can't really test when there are no sores so any sti check will not include herpes unless sores present.

So try and accept its happend.
Ive often used zovirax, which definitely helps. It does say not for gential use but ive ignored it for the last 20 years and nothing has dropped off.
Overtime the frequency and severity of the outbrakes reduce and i have no more 1 or 2 a year.

As for other partners - not sure as didnt have that problem but it was certainly in the back of my mind if we ever separated - maybe thats why we stayed together through the early days.

There are dating sites for people with herpes.

Keep stong

Apparently the first outbreak is by far the worst, and after that it settles down over time as your body builds immunity to the virus.

Just think, it is just a skin condition. If it was anywhere else on your body it wouldn't have this effect on you, so don't let it upset you so much. You didn't choose this, so don't carry shame because of it. The person who should be ashamed is the partner who exposed you to it without warning. That's not ok.

It is all manageable, just take it one step at a time.