How to get in the mood when you've got babies/small children ?

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I just constantly tired/touched out and would much rather sleep tbh! That plus I hate my post children body (2 sections have ruined my stomach) how on earth do you get in the right headspace/get in the mood?!

My dh is 100 with the kids and knows I am more likely to be in the mood when i am relaxed. Tbh some days am not in the mood and we did and it's amazing and makes me remember what am missing so we do it more often. Don't worry about your body just take it slow to get your confidence back. I am 16 weeks post dd birth and I don't wear anything I am not comfortable with and just relax more.

Booze

Alcohol

I would definitely recommend you get some rest throughout the day and have your dh take care of the kids. Then your chances are better.

Forget how you feel about your body. I've had three sections now and know exactly what you mean about your stomach, but I have to be proud of the scar that shows where my babies came out and dp doesn't seem bothered (or he does a great job of covering his disgust). At least it leaves your foof in full working order.

Does your dc still sleep in your room? That can be off-putting, but third time round I couldn't care less.

I can't get enough at the moment, despite my 7 month old sleeping terribly. The sleep I get after dtd is just the best and dp seems happy to do so much more to help with the house and kids when he's rewarded every night.

Same here op, 2 sections and an overlap of fat which I just pretend is not there
U have to be in the right mind set which is impossible when u've got 2 small DC to feed, bathe, clothe, care for etc its exhausting!

I went right off sex, what I did to get back my libido is a build intimacy with dp, talking about how I'm doing in general ,about sex etc.
It helped a lot and he was very understanding.
Best thing is do communicate

Watching this thread as I struggle with this too. Good suggestions so far... even the alcohol ones

Pilates once a week with two half hour attempts to do it at home with a YouTube video has made the world of difference to my stomach area after 3 CS's. I work FT and get the whole being touched all day being off putting. When on leave I would take myself off on my own once the kids were down at 7pm. I'd clean up by 8pm then spend an hour on my own (walk, bath, excercise class etc) so by 9:30pm I felt sane again.

Have you tried buying some nice lingerie? Can be a good way of signalling you're in the mood?