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Steamy Christmas present

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DaddyDayCare82 · 01/12/2016 17:50

Get to the point quickly, DW and I have been through a up and down time since DD blessed us 5 years ago! But things have settled down of late and we're starting to be more adventurous like the old days!!! Hence my last point regarding 'a play'

So I want to buy her some sexy undies for the weekend we have planned to London in 2 weeks but have no idea were to start.
I have an idea of what I'd like to see but what a man finds sexy might not be sexy to wear if that makes any sense!

So just after a few tips or pointers really on what might be good place to start.

Please can people avoid abusing me regarding my post, I'm a real 34 year old husband with 2 kids am not looking to get my rocks off, it simply a great way to get a honest opinion from real women with real experience! Just like my wife

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 01/12/2016 17:58

Try to base your choice on the sort of underwear your wife usually wears. Check the size labels carefully on her bra to get the right sizing and go for quality fabrics rather than cheap scratchy lace and nylon. If you have a sister you could ask her opinion?
It's a difficult thing to get right so be sure your wife would be pleased with wearing your choice and has enough body confidence to enjoy parading about in her knickers. It has to be a present for her, not just for yourself if you see what I mean.

PrincessMortificado · 01/12/2016 18:32

I wouldn't really. Unless you're 1000% sure she'd love them.

Why put added "pressure" on? Just get nice and intimate again!

WatchingFromTheWings · 01/12/2016 18:42

Probably better off taking her shopping so she can choose her own. If you get something she doesn't like or if it doesn't fit, it could very well put a dampener on the weekend.

Somerville · 01/12/2016 18:44

YY to looking at labels to find it what sizes she takes and what stores she likes.

Don't start with something crotchless or with nipple tassles or something. (Not unless she's clearly into that kind of underwear and is already accustomed to it.) Go for a fabric and cut and style and colour that will suit her and help her feel good.

Don't give it to her without warning just as you arrive at the hotel in case it doesn't fit or she doesn't like it. Unless you've given her a heads up and you're both happy that in that case she just won't wear it and will exchange it for a future occasion.

Gift vouchers for a high end lingerie store and the time to go and spend them child free would be a better gift IMO.

Ifailed · 01/12/2016 18:53

Do the ironing, washing, hoovering, scrubbing, dusting,mopping and cleaning for a week. She'll thank you far more for that than any scratchy 'sexy' underwear you could buy, which she'd have to change into at your behest anyway.

Nineloves1 · 01/12/2016 18:55

My husband bought me some lingerie one Christmas. It was "just" sexy black lingerie, but the fact that he bought it made me feel more like a lover than a mother. If that helps.

Costacoffeeplease · 01/12/2016 18:59

If you think she's at all body conscious go for something sexy but that also covers her up a bit, so a nice sheer wrap, or baby doll type thing rather than just bra and knickers

FlyingElbows · 01/12/2016 20:06

Tread carefully. This is not a present for her it's a present for you and if she's at all fragile it could backfire hugely. The best woman to ask what your wife would like is your wife. You know her, we'd just be guessing which maybe isn't much help.

PrincessMortificado · 01/12/2016 20:10

Yy Flying. Personally I can't think of anything less erotic and luckily my dh doesn't care either, but I know everyone's different.

I'd disagree slightly with Costa and say she's body conscious, don't get something more covering as it could in itself send the wrong message - either drop the idea completely as she wouldn't enjoy it, or let her buy some herself if her own choosing.

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 01/12/2016 20:12

I would book an appointment at Rigby and Peller in the store off Oxford street, and present her with some vouchers to spend there.

Then sip Prosecco while she has a proper fitting and some nice choices of upscale underwear.

About £300! Would do it

Then take her to the Polo Lounge across the street and buy her champagne.

Lilacpink40 · 01/12/2016 20:17

Definitely not Ann Summers or anything cheap and scratchy. What about a black silk vest and short set in her size?

dementedma · 01/12/2016 20:18

Agree a voucher for nice undie shop is better.

Heratnumber7 · 01/12/2016 20:18

Sexy underwear is definitely for men, not women. Give her a comfy pair of big knicks to keep the cold out and make her really happy.

ShatnersBassoon · 01/12/2016 20:20

I agree with those who think it could be an unpleasant surprise for a woman who hasn't expressed any interest in presenting herself that way for you. Why not ask her if she'd like some fancy underwear? Better to know and go about choosing something she's happy with than ask strangers and make a balls up of it.

ShatnersBassoon · 01/12/2016 20:22

PS - don't say 'steamy' to her when you broach the subject. It's a bit Tina Turner.

mortificado · 01/12/2016 21:30

I think a gift voucher for a high end store would be better, or maybe suggest getting something together? Have a nice weekend

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 02/12/2016 07:03

Not strictly true on the big pants - I buy sexy underwear for myself not my DP.

He prefers totally starkers.

But sexy to me is 1950's Sophia Lauren style, not some polyester thrush inducing fake Mrs. Santa thong, with matching elastic fitted fake fur lined peephole bra.

www.empreinte.eu/en/catalog.aspx?l=new-styles&cat=1721

I wear sets from Empreinte everyday but they have lovely sets for special occasions too, and R&P stock a lot of their range.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 02/12/2016 08:02

Mrs. Santa thong ....very steamy.

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DaddyDayCare82 · 02/12/2016 08:05

Thank you all for your suggestions and advice it's really appreciated.

Watchinginthewings I took your advice and talked to her about it and she's keen to do a little shopping while we're in London. I showed her a couple of choices and see seemed pretty happy with them. But thought it would be better we go together.

And ifailed I do my fair share of household chores! It's not a 1950's house here!!

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Ifailed · 02/12/2016 16:25

And ifailed I do my fair share of household chores! It's not a 1950's house here!!

Good to hear! Hope you two have a lovely time in London.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 02/12/2016 16:29

Good idea to shop together, avoids any pressure and issues with not fitting. Have fun in London.

AkimboLimbo · 03/12/2016 12:26

I love sexy undies - but you have to know what she likes.
I put things on an Amazon or Lovehoney wishlist and let him pick

LuluJakey1 · 04/12/2016 18:58

DH buys me nice underwear occasionally - nothing overtly sexy or tacky- but I would not thank him for giving me sexy underwear on a weekend away. It has an expectation to it.

AkimboLimbo · 04/12/2016 19:05

If we were due to have a weekend away, sex would be extremely high on my list of expectations

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DaddyDayCare82 · 04/12/2016 20:07

Well ours too! Was just a little treat to spice it up a little.

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