Porn again... Tips on watching it together

[Lovemyman]

Hi there,

I think after a long time pondering, I'd like to watch porn with my partner.

I have always found it difficult to reveal to anyone that I've watched a fair amount myself. My partner watches it regularly(daily). But I have struggled with him using it without me as quite often I am wanting sex and hes not so responsive. My libido has gone nuts recently and I'm thinking about sex loads (like 24/7)!

Anyways, can anyone recommend how we can share some porn and not feel awkward? I'm thinking alcohol and candles, but that sounds a bit bluergh!

Thank you :-)

Daily porn use is not good. I enjoy a bit of porn, both alone and together, but daily use is unhealthy. He's using porn instead of having sex - that's crap. We use it as well as having sex or as a prelude to having sex.

I never had any issue suggesting it to him. We were both quite honest about that from the start, so watching it together was fairly easy.

Have you ever had a conversation about his porn use, avoidance of sex or the idea of watching it together? How long have you been together for?

Thank you pp. We are in our 50's, and he has steroid injections etc so I don't expect him to be up for it every day at least once a day. He's a fantastic lover and incredibly caring. I think you have to be realistic when you are affected by externals (steroids and back injuries do affect your sex life and his libido).

More than anything he wants me to be satisfied. We have discussed using porn and are both happy to.

It's just getting past the first step, gathering ideas and setting the scene more that I am hoping to find.

Thank you

I wouldn't worry about setting the scene too much. When my partner and I do it we keep it light and low pressure - I usually start by suggesting we check out a video I saw that I think we'd both enjoy, then she browses for another, then I pick another, then somewhere along the way we get distracted by each other and the porn becomes background.

Thank you meph's apprentice! (Fab username).

I think your way sounds fun and low pressure. I might give that a go

Fun and low pressure sounds about right.

I was nervous about introducing my wife to porn and what she might think of it. She found some of what turns me on a little off-putting - but mostly due to the style of the video really.

We watch together as foreplay. My wife prefers natural scenes with natural same-age people. It's fun to laugh a little at it together. I think she found it more arousing than she let on.

Ultimately, it was new to her so she hadn't see much, nor was aware of the wide variety that existed. I like scenes with nice lingerie and my wife likes to dress up to please me. It can feel very liberating to watch with your partner.

I'm a bit late to the party here, but DH and I usually check out the terrible tv porn on SKY (if you can call it porn?)
We laugh and joke at how terrible it is and try to guess who has real boobs, argue over who's the most attractive model etc.
It usually leads to one of us googling our favourite model to find out if they've done any "proper" porn which eventually leads to us browsing porn on the internet.
Lighthearted and fun, quite arousing and gets us both going for the real thing

There are always amateur sections on sites like Pornhub and xhamster.

This is what we prefer to see. Really people in all shapes and sizes having mutual enjoyment..