Getting Into 'A' Play

[DaddyDayCare82]

New to this and my wife and I both read loads of the posts all over mumsnet.
This will only apply to some and please don't accost me for asking the question but were after a little advice and perhaps some people experience when it comes to 'A' Play...

We're not interested at the minute in going for full anal sex but are curious with a little play for both herself and myself.

I guess the question is have you got any advice as where to start, we thought about a beginners plug and maybe go from there, but any advice / suggestions are welcome.

Book a trip to centre parcs?

Failing a centre parcs trip I'd be off to love honey etc..

Lube .. lube ... Lube either oil based or water based depends on whether you want to use condoms.

Relaxing, enjoying the moment. Talking openly and seeing how far you want to go together.

An anal douche is useful (eBay just a couple of pounds) and maybe an anal relaxant gel.

Alcohol/weed to help her relax and bobs your uncle!

Mainly, just enjoy it and go slowly

It works both ways too, you both have the same areas.

A plug shaped to massage the prostrate can be incredibly pleasurable.

As pp's have said, relax, go slow and most importantly, douche. Maybe try some rimming before going in with the butt plugs. If that isn't your thing then gentle fingering and playing to get used to the sensations. If you want to get butt plugs then I recommend the small metal ones with a jewel. They're much more comfy and hygienic than the rubbery ones.

Also, remember to wash your hands/penis after anal play if you're going to touch her genitals as UTI's are very much a risk.

Thank you for the replies, it's much appreciated, no need for centre parks not going to try for full anal sex just yet, was just more of an introduction to anal play that was the plan.

I've read that plugs are really enjoyable for both, and Mrs DDC82 is up for a new experience, she intrigued to see what the sensation will be like. Better get shopping then.

My friend swears by P spot massage, just need to get the confidence to give it a go!

A good quality lube and a few toys of various sizes for both of you.
Start with just lube and fingers, if that feels good, move onto a slim toy.
There's no rush here, take your time and stop if there is any discomfort.
Stick with toys until she is confident that she wants and is ready for more.
An anal douche is easy to use and a good idea.
The best positions are spoons, her on top or missionary. Good communication is vital if you are in control, otherwise let her take control. Put the tip inside and hold still. That gives her a moment to get used to it and relax. Then you can go further at HER pace. No thrusting - that will take time to work towards. It takes practice to control the muscles and stay relaxed.
Yes to lots of lube, but technique is key. Good communication and take your time.

Thanks Akimbolimbo, appreciate the advice, we actually had a great experience last night, Mrs DDC came in a little tipsy late last night so managed to have a play with just fingers while having piv sex (lots of lube used), and was well received so have decided so buy a small plug.
I read today that the feeling of a plug in whilst having sex is supposed to be a great feeling. Can anyone concur?!

I don't get this. Are you getting off on talking to women about this? Why not talk about this perfectly normal activity with your wife?

OohhThatsMe, no it's not about that at all, and I apologise if it's come across that way. We have a realatvely vanilla SLife so just after advice and as stupid as it seems it's easier to get real honest advice from real honest people. I can assure you I'm not some 17 year old cyber freak.

Yes I enjoy a butt plug alongside PIV.

Dont use a relaxant as it could mask damage, use masses of lube and go slowly and there shouldn't be pain. Cling film can be a good barrier for rimming.

"I don't get this. Are you getting off on talking to women about this? Why not talk about this perfectly normal activity with your wife?"

Helpful.

Imagine... wanting to ask a question on sex and asking it on a sex board. Whatever next

I think ohhhthatsme isn't getting any so taking it out in op

*on

Haha thanks for the back up ArthurScargillsgingerpube

I'm thankful for the helpful replies

Why bother replying if that's all you have to say LimeFizz?

Because it sounds like you either have never done it or you're incredibly inconsiderate.
You don't "Just stick your finger up her arse" - it's likely to hurt and it's very unlikely to feel good.
She definitely won't like it if you take that approach.
Would you tell a man looking for advice before having sex with his virgin partner to just stick his penis in her vagina, she'll either like it or she won't?
There is no point in offering advice when you have no experience, knowledge or understanding about the subject.

Fascinating - that would hurt most people with no lube or preparation.
Maybe your arse is looser than most, who knows - but it's good to hear you enjoy it.
I still think it's dreadful advice for other people.