How Do I Seduce a Man?

[CheeseTittles]

I'm self-employed but currently working for a business (consultancy style) so I'm not worried about repercussions or anything like that. I really fancy the boss of this business and would like to have a bit of fun with him, nothing serious as I'm too focussed on career right now. He's single and if I had to guess I'd say he fancies me but he's professional and hasn't made it obvious.

We don't socialise outside of work and I don't really want to other than to have sex. (I sound dreadful but I spend all of my hours working I just want some relief now n then). But how do I get to that point? It would of course be inappropriate for me to make it obvious and I can't ask him out as that would be unprofessional. I just want it to happen!

What do I do? Both single by the way and I'll be leaving the business (and town) in a few months.

Your CheeseTitties should do it for you.

If you can't ask him out for drinks, why would having sex be any more professional?

My MO was talking about common non work related ground then ending on "oh we should definitely go to X some time" be it coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks... then exchange out of work details. This then led to out of work socialising but obviously you'll know more about what is and isn't professional

Er.... Are you leaving business/town permanently in a few months? Because if it goes wrong then that could potentially be a problem for a looooong time.

If there's a chance that it'll affect your livelihood then just drop it. It's not worth the risk, just for sex.

I would start with a reasonably light touch "oh, I'll miss working with X company" and see what response you get. If reasonably positive, work up to "maybe we should have a drink some time", if still reasonably positive, suggest date and time. If he's not interested he can say he's busy, if he is interested he can suggest an alternative if he is actually busy.
Then book a room in a nice hotel and arrange to meet him in the bar. Good luck.

I suppose my worry about it not being professional is the part where he could say no. Like if I say 'hey we should discuss that over drinks/dinner?' He could say 'no thanks'. And then I'm obviously mortified and feeling unprofessional. I also don't want to have to spend an evening eating and drinking, I just want the end goal and then we go our separate ways!

What I'm after is a way for it to naturally happen but without the slow build up but I don't know how to get it there. I'm probably wanting some unrealistic movie scenario where we're both working late, he enters my office and locks the door, rips my clothes off and we go at it like animals then I get home in time to finish off my prep for the next day and have a nice bath, then back to work in the morning!

Is this realistic?

Yes I'll be gone permanently and it won't affect my career in any way. I've never done this before but to be honest I'm getting to an age now we're I've had absolutely no fun in terms of dating/sex and I just want to let go and actually go for it for once instead of always being so serious and boring.

This sounds far more like a fantasy than a possible reality.
He's just never going to do that is he.

Try tinder. There are so many ways for this to go wrong.

Suppose not, no PC gone mad I say!

I'm frustrated and have no time to meet anyone or sustain any kind of relationship- nor do I want one. I would just like a good rogering and then I get back to work!

Plenty of men would love the sound of that. So you never know. But I do think there needs to be some pre-amble! Saying "what I'd adore right now is a high quality rodgering and then for you to refrain from seeing me." would be ideal for you but isn't very seductive! Out of the blue n all!

Sorry dear but I think if it's going to work there has to at least be dinner or drinks.

that is exactly what I want to say! God I'm not cut out for all of this

Ok let's say I've got him out, does a work event count? We have a dinner that I could attend later this month, other staff would be there though. Could I make a move then? If so, how?

Why don't you try flirting with him and enticing him with a bit of leg or cleavage? If he's interested he'll respond. If he doesn't respond you can just bow out gracefully and pretend nothing happened.

You sound perfect to 90% of the male population. NSA sex without the ballache of a relationship.

Light flirting, then spell out what you want. Jobs a good un'

It's a small world. I'd keep your sex life and your professional life separate. There must be easier ways to have casual sex

Seriously, just Tinder. When I was in the same, er, mood, I used to change my bio to read something like "does not want to meet your parents" cheesy as all sin but totally worked

One does not shit where one eats.

I don't want to have casual sex with a randomer, the only reason I'm feeling like this is because he makes me feel like this! So tinder is a no go.

I've never seduced a man in my life. I've had two long relationships and that's it but for the past few years it's been all work and no life whatsoever. I don't even know if I can flirt, how about compliments? Is that flirting? I'm shit.

I have had a few advances in a work environment over the years, but in order to make me (a man) to realise what is going on, they have had to be very blatant. IMO If you are too subtle you average man won't notice or will just think he has misunderstood what you mean. Add into that all of the emphasis on sexual equality and harrassment in the workplace etc. and he will probably pretend it's not happening unless you are direct. In short you may need to spell it out to him, perhaps in combination with some sexy business wear and most men wouldn't be able to resist.

Given your lack of seduction skills and desire for a quick in & out relationship your best bet is to be direct, perhaps best done towards the end of your contract.

Dress a notch or two above your usual work attire wearing your best pick-me-up lipstick, walk into his office making sure that you make eye contact & ask if he can help with a personal dilemma - that you fancy a single guy high up in his company (hopefully he is the only one) and not sure how to go about it given that your priority is professionalism at workplace.

Speaking as a man, "Do you want to get a drink sometime?" followed by running your eyes from crotch to eyeline would probably be sufficiently clear as to your intentions.

Then at the drink explicitly state that you find him extremely sexually interesting and would very much like a one night stand within the next 15 minutes.

Certainly sounds like a male fantasy. Why not make it happen?

Great advice! Thank you all

Good shout leaving it until the end of my contract because if I have to make it obvious and he says no I would die of shame.

I can do the lipstick and the outfit and the crotch gazing and the invite for a drink, they all seem relatively simple. Then I guess I can gauge how it's going from there before putting myself completely out there.

I'm definitely going to go for it as I think I need to in order to give myself a bit more confidence in this area of life. Just have to wait it out now I guess!

OP how did you get on?

Ime 98% of men would be totally up for NSA sex. They need obvious (and to a professional woman what might feel rather slutty) signals though - like very short skirts, high heels, sitting a bit too close, innuendo, eye contact. Make it clear you are available and give off signals that you enjoy sex.

Guess it didn't go well then....

Ime 98% of men would be totally up for NSA sex.
Rubbish! You are suggesting that only 2% are capable of turning down sex.
Even single men are not that simple. There are plenty of men who would find that approach either too intimidating or a complete turn-off.

Hi akimbo- I prefixed my post with 'in my experience'. I can only speak as I have found.