Older kids - when/how do you manage to have sex??

[Roo1976]

With your partner, that is, not the kids! !!

My two are 10 and 13 now and invariably the teen is still awake when we go to bed, and younger one is up earlier to play on computer, and we find we're struggling to find time for US, iykwim! My parents were very loud which was excruciating as a child and so I'm very wary of getting jiggy when the kids might hear as a result, and obviously we can be quiet but total silence is unlikely....so how do people manage it? Currently OH keeps trying at around 3am but i like my sleep so that's not ideal!!! Any ideas?!

Watching with interest....becoming a problem for me too!

Early morning works for us.

Sometimes at night, if we think they are doing something that involves having earphones in.

15yo ds has the bedroom next to ours and the walls are super thin! Luckily he uses headphones when he's on his Xbox so we manage it then by being as quiet as we can or we make use of the one night a week he goes to his dad's. He has never mentioned hearing anything - and he is definitely the type who would tell us if he had - so assume we're being discreet enough. The other 3 dc are all young enough to still be asleep when we go to bed so they're not a worry at the moment.

DH is self employed. I worked part time so we always tried to fit in a morning session when DC were at school. Failing that it was a quickie with locked door.

Dh goes for a shower & I tidy our room around 7.30 in the evening

Kids are watching tv

Oh it was difficult! We're in a bungalow which made it even harder. We had to wait until bedtime then be quiet as well - many a time my husband had to tell me to "shush"! Now that they're older (24 and 19), we have the house to ourselves quite a lot so we're making up for all those stifled sessions!

I've never had a problem with this because I'm really not bothered if my kids know their father and me are having sex. If you are this way from the start, kids really don't care. Being open about such things is much more healthy! My boy knows he has to knock first......

Plaster the bedroom walls with egg cartons