I only have sex in my 'fertile window'

[Candlefairy101]

I'm wondering if this is just me!

The 'norm' for many relationships is 2/3 a week but with me I only feel like sex in my fertility window. It's like a switch that goes off inside me, I'm either not bothered about it don't think about sex in the slightest to a rampant rabbit!

I can not take the pill because I hate that it completely takes away my libido, and I won't have sex unless I'm in the mood so taking the pill is pointless.

Is there any other women out there like me when it comes to this switch? For me, it drives me crazy if I'm honest, I wonder if I would like it that I could do the whole 2/3 a week? Are the women that have this kind of 'sex routine' have a sex drive all month? Because I wish I did!

I love having a sex drive hence I won't take the pill, so how would I have it all month every month and. It go completely off sex coming up to my period?

I'm exactly the same since I had my DD. It's exactly how you describe it, a switch goes on and goes off. I haven't a clue what to do about it.

I can't say I have this, but my sex drive does increase during my period for some annoying reason. I don't understand why you would never have sex during the other three weeks though. Is your partner happy about that? With some foreplay, toys or (don't kill me Mumsnet) porn I can usually get myself in the mood. If you're just outright turning down your partner every single time during those three weeks, then maybe you need to put more effort in.

Yep. Never horny unless I'm ovulating.

It's more 2 weeks on 2 weeks off, and I think I drive my partner crazy when the rampant rabbit is on! I'm like a dog on heat!

I'm either sexually frustrates for 2 weeks because no matter what he does I can't get enough or I'm in a onsie wearing a sigh around my neck saying don't touch!

In the last 2 months I've been keeping track of my monthly cycle in an app, my youngest is 8 months old, I have 3 young children so I've either been pregnant or breastfeeding etc and can't remember much of the in between, I've never really. Priced this switch before if I'm honest?

Yep me too. Dh thinks it's quite amusing because I become mental horny from the end of my period for the next two weeks then once I've ovulate I feel hormonally dead inside. It's got worse as I've got older too.
He can't even kiss me hello or goodbye without me getting turned on when the switch is on.

For the 2 or 3 days i'm ovulating my body takes over with the crazy hormones and temp rise and wants sex now. The rest of the time, meh' it's ok but not the same.

Oh thank god its not just me! Do you take any contraceptives like the pill or like me just use a condom?

When I read about people having it 2/3 a week I think "how?"

Never been on hormonal contraception. Just goes to prove that despite our brainpower and choice we are still animals on heat when fertile!
After ovulating your body just knows there's no point wasting energy

I'm exactly the same! The difference in my sex drive before I ovulate is crazy.

I have a copper coil fitted which has no hormones.

How do you find the copper coil? If I take the pill 1) the hormones mess with my head make me feel almost depressed and I don't want to go down the whole trial and error route because I have 3 young ones and I just don't think I'd cope and 2) it gives me no Dec drive anyway so what's the point in taking it!

Yeah me too. It's frustrating as I'm single, I spend a week trawling tinder then 3 weeks maintaining half arsed conversations with men I no longer want to have sex with.

Haha poldark! I feel you pain even tho I'm married, my husband only licked an envelope this morning to seal it and I nearly ate him alive! Poor man doesn't know if he's coming or going (pun intended) with me x

I'm exactly the same and as no one else ever seems to mention it, I've always wondered if it was just me! It's more like two weeks on/two weeks off for me with a window of about 3 days in the middle of that where it's all I can think about. It works ok for us, DH doesn't mind the 2 week drought, I guess he knows what's coming the other two weeks.

Incidentally, I had a Mirena coil fitted last year and it left me in that pre-period stage for the whole 10 months or so it was in. Utterly miserable.

So its not just me then?

OP I really like the copper coil but only side effect for me has been longer heavier periods, gone from about 4/5 days to a week. Worth putting up with that though for having no hormones. I wondered why I had no sex drive for years, came off the pill and discovered it! (For at least a week in the month !)