Share my joy

[Icantrememberanymore]

I want to share something good that happened to me last night.
To begin with though, I don't orgasm through sex, I enjoy having sex, I enjoy the intimacy of it and I enjoy seeing my partner enjoy it. I can orgasm by myself but never with someone no matter what we do.
I have come to accept this and enjoy sex for what it is, last night I was having sex and I began to really relax into it, I started to feel not exactly the stirrings but nice, I started to feel nice. I gave up the idea of feeling anything close to this a long time ago, and although it only lasted for moments, I have realised that maybe I could get there through sex.
So mumsnetters, share my joy

Relaxing is key to enjoying

Wow wonderful!!! Have you been with your partner for a long time? I hope this happens to me

Consider your joy shared and long may it continue. Did you actually orgasm or almost get there.
Definitely definitely definitely relaxation is the key. I don't care about anything when me and dp have a shag. I just let myself go. Yes my body isn't perfect far from it but so what. He wouldn't be with me if he found me repulsive

He's a new partner, but we've been friends for a long time.
I didn't orgasm or almost get there, but I had a nice feeling and that was nice, it's hard to describe it exactly. It was nice.

Absolutely good sex doesn't always mean an orgasm.

It's been about a month, but it happened again!
This morning when we woke up, we were spooning and he began to - I'm not entirely sure what the word is but - touch me up, his hands were everywhere, it was so sensual and then we had sex, it was clear it was just a quickie and he took full control.
He didn't want any kissing etc, partly I felt like I was being used (even though he's a lovely kind man who would never do this) but I loved it! I got the stirrings again and although I didn't climax it felt like I was getting closer than I ever have before.
This makes me hope things are changing and I will get to orgasm through sex?

Last night DP unexpectedly gave me fantastic oral. We haven't had sex for ages because of the baby and me being totally knackered but he really pulled it out of the bag

It looks like everyone's sex lives are improving, all it takes is patience it would seem

Good sex with the right man is amazing even without an orgasm (I can't orgasm through standard sex) but if you do want to get there, seriously, a vibrator cock ring has changed our lives. Having him inside makes the actual orgasm much stronger as well as it obviously being amazing emotionally.