Best Lovers and Sex - Moving On

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I have just come out of a one year relationship where I can honestly say hand on heart we had the best sex ever, with pretty much no boundaries or limits, including group play (she is bi) and BDSM with me as a dominant (which she brought out in me ). It wasn't all just hard sex, it was made better by the intimacy and love between us.

Sex plays a major part in her life and psyche and this was obvious in our sex life.

Now its over I am mourning the fact that I have lost the most incredible sexual partner I could ever ask for. I am honestly unlikely to find anyone with the same sex drive and needs in a future relationship and I am worried I am always going to end up judging future lovers against her, and not having my needs satisfied .

How do I come to terms with that and move on?

I don't have any useful advice but I wanted to say that I also know where you're coming from.

I have recently split from the best D/s relationship I've had. It was the right thing to do but it's hard. I was fairly new to it. This was his first time being a Dom. We built up such a position of trust between us. I am dating at the moment but I am missing having someone I can submit to entirely.

Hope everyone doing better today. Mine has talked to me and we're communicating. He didn't realise I was upset with stuff. He's responded by taking us off swinging site and suggested he arranges more time with me until I feel better about us. He was surprised that I thought he was a bit closed off. He'd thought he'd opened up to me loads and was surprised I didn't see it the same way. Funny how two people can have a conversation and have two completely different interpretations of it. Hey ho.
His love language is 'doing'. I need to remember that.

Excellent wantmore, isn't it funny how in such a lifestyle where communication is key, communication styles between people can vary so much there's differences in what each other perceives.That's so awesome you are both are working it out.

My update is that I'm now single again. The gf wanted to 'be open' and 'was curious' but after a lot of talking about how she felt, I don't think you can really be into D/s or kink if you've never thought of it before. It's something that's latent. Being a pure through and through bisexual myself I explained to her being curious with kink is like me or her as a lesbian getting together with someone who is bicurious, satisfied with trying it out but doesn't look for it as a long term thing.

So anyway heartbroken but did start a wee thread on here for the future when I feel up for dating sites. I give up on nilla people now