So so frustrated!

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I'd really appreciate some advice.

My DH and I have been together for a few years and have 2 fantastic children between us. It's safe to say he's my best friend and soulmate, it's the happiest relationship I've ever had

Only problem is our sex life, I'd happily have sex everyday, whereas he's really happy with once every month or so, our sex drives are wildly different

When I try to raise this he gets very defensive and immediately shuts down ... He feels he's being pressured (he suffers with ED from time to time) I feel desperate and as if I'm forever begging for sex.

I really don't know how to handle this as aside from this one element of our relationship our lives together are wonderful (hasten to add that when we do have sex it's amazing)

Help!

Has he always been like this? Could it be a health problem?
Ruling out health and psychological issues you should try to raise it with him in a non confrontational way - when out on a walk or something where it's (fairly) obvious you aren't 'trying it on'. Sometimes the more you have the more you want?? Would he be up for non penetrating ways of stimulating you?

If this has been an ongoing problem from the start of the relationship (once you were past the 'honeymoon' phase), then this is who he is, you can't change to suit you. Similarly your libido won't change to suit him....

So you'll either need to accept things as they are, or decide that this is a dealbreaker (and all that follows that realisation). It really is that black and white a situation.

*he