Is anyone in an open relationship and would like to share thoughts?

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Firstly can I say that I am not interested in hearing from anyone who thinks open relationships are a bad idea. My DH and I have agreed on this and we are extremely happy. Both of us are turned on by the thought of the other with someone else and I would say we have an excellent sex life.
However, it's not exactly the kind of thing you talk about with friends so I wondered if there are any Mumsnetters who are in this kind of relationship and would like to chat? How do you manage your boundaries? For example, DH is meeting a girl tomorrow for sex. He knows that I expect him to text me before, after and when possible, during and that I will want to know all the details when he gets home. Is this the same for others or do you just let each other get on with it? Just looking to share some thoughts really.

Don't know why I wrote 'girl', sorry. I meant he is meeting a woman, obviously spent too much time with older relatives lately who refer to anyone under 35 as a girl!

I don't know that it matters what other people do, it sounds like you have discussed this and worked out what you want from each other.
Make sure you keep that communication open and honest, making adjustments to the rules if you need to.
Keep safe and have fun.

I've been in an open marriage for just over a year. It has worked fine for us and we have had some amazing experiences together with others and separately. Like a pp said everyone's set up is different and whatever works for you is fine. However communication and willingness to compromise /be respectful of everyone's needs are key.
I quite like to hear all the gory details of my partner's exploits as it turns me on, but he's not massively bothered about hearing mine. Although he likes watching me with other people.

Im not in an open relationship but I have been in the past (split nothing to do with it)
As long as you both communicate and stick to the rules you have both made then theres no reason it cant work.
Its all to do with trust.
Remember jealously is a normal feeling and if it happens be honest and communicate, reassure each other and make sure you are both you are each othere priorities before anyone else.

It is working for us currently, thank you! Can I ask though... I have no problem with DH having sex with other women, but the communication he has with them in order to arrange the sexual activity makes me jealous :( have either of you (or anyone else with experience of an open relationship) experienced this? How do I deal with it? It seems weird to be turned on by him having sex with another woman but pissed off by him talking to one!

Thats normal dont worry, I had the same thing to begin with, in the end we decided to stick to swingers clubs for a while.
We would go together and leave together.
He could do what he wanted there and so could I.
That prevented the communication with other women thing. No contact was to be kept it was just sex.
Eventually we worked up to making plans outside of clubs but by then I had built up trust and knew he wasnt going to build an emotional relationship with women to the extent he'd leave me for them.

I have an open relationship of sorts...... I have a lover, but my DH is faithful to me! It works very well for us....

Nice to hear from some other people in non- monogamous relationships. It's not all about the sex for me. I have an extra-marital partner and we enjoy cooking and gardening together, neither of which my husband has the slightest interest in. It is terribly middle aged (but he does also shag the arse off me )