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ginnyorjenny · 09/08/2016 10:07

Okay. So NC for this. And please I don't want the righteous squad around to kick the door in. Am 45, three kids and bored rigid with sex life. Have tried and tried, but just not working for me. Love him to bits and no way am I having an affair, or leaving or anything like that. But I do want to try anonymous online sex. But how the f**k? Spent a few hours on omegle last night and feel soiled after it tbh. Don't really want to register for anything and have emails and passwords etc around. So where do you find this, and how do you make it work. I take it that you have to wade through a bit of dross, but Jesus, there must be some people looking for a good time without porno tropes and downright misogyny. And don't get me started on age. Any pointers welcome.

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HerOtherHalf · 09/08/2016 12:30

Maybe I'm a bit naive but do you mean online sex like phone sex where it is all virtual with no physical contact or do you mean meeting people online to have no-strings physical sex?

The latter is much worse than the former but either way my rule is don't do anything you wouldn't want your partner to find out about. Everything comes out in the wash eventually. Sorry if that sounds righteous, it's not and it's not for me to judge you whatever you decide. Just think it through very thoroughly before you jump in.

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wherearemymarbles · 09/08/2016 12:52

My understanding things like omegle are full of men wanking. Most are probably straight so at least you can take your pick?

But what exactly are you looking for?

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GinandTits · 09/08/2016 12:57

Do you mean online sex as in chat and naughty pics webcam etc? Or go and meet for a shag ?

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ginnyorjenny · 09/08/2016 13:08

No. I mean chat and talking. Absolutely not meeting up with anyone. The thought of pics and video give me the horrors too. Imagine ....

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HerOtherHalf · 09/08/2016 13:26

I can't imagine how you're going to find something that suits you but maybe I'm an old fuddy-duddy. Mutual masturbation with random blokes online where 99% will just be total sleazeballs - what's to like? Puting aside the possibility of revamping things with your partner, would erotic fiction not be a better outlet for you?

As an aside, never share pics or webcams online unless you're prepared for them to be shared with a much wider audience. I know you said you won't but just in case others contemplate it. I've seen numerous posts on male oriented forums of videos/pics of girls who obviously never intended them to be shared. Quite a few had been trolled on sites like plenty of fish etc.

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HooseRice · 09/08/2016 13:30

Send your man a filthy text and take it from there?

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 09/08/2016 13:33

No. I mean chat and talking. Absolutely not meeting up with anyone. The thought of pics and video give me the horrors too. Imagine ....

I'm not sure that really exists anymore. There are people online who will want to meet for real sex, there are people that will share videos/images/livestreams, but even phone sex lines are hugely on the decline. I imagine cybersex has largely gone the way of the dinosaurs.

Love him to bits and no way am I having an affair, or leaving or anything like that.

Does he know you're doing this? What if he finds out and leaves you? I have a suspicion that anyone who agreed to just text-based sex would have a good idea that you're hiding from something, and he'd find out pretty quickly. People like to play the hero.

You might find someone, if you keep searching and searching, but you'll probably go through a lot of bollocks first, and if you're already feeling soiled, I don't think you have the heart for it really.

It'd be like trying to find someone to have a normal chat with on Chat Roulette. You'd have eight million penises to fight with first.

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ginnyorjenny · 09/08/2016 14:05

Send your man a filthy text and take it from there?

hooserice, have been through sex therapy and years of this, and haven't had sex in over a year, so unfortunately not so straightforward.

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WontLetThoseRobotsDefeatMe · 09/08/2016 14:15

Erotic fiction - read, in bed, glass of wine and either fingers or toys depending on what gets you off.

No cheating feeling, but good sexual release. Yes, you have to read through a bit of dross at times, but ime you soon find writers/bloggers who are on your wavelength. Honestly give it a go!

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NeedAnotherGlass · 09/08/2016 18:44

Might be worth looking at something like Fetlife or Sex Forums

But you also need to consider how your OH would feel about this if he found out.

I would try erotica/porn and masturbation first.

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UmbongoUnchained · 09/08/2016 18:47

If my husband dos this is consider it cheating. Maybe you should just leave your husband instead of doing this.

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NotTheFordType · 09/08/2016 21:16

I would recommend being totally upfront with your H, and telling him you'll be seeking a NSA with someone else. Then just put your details up on Tinder, POF or OKC and you'll have someone ringing your doorbell before you can press send.

Negotiate the details - does he want to know what you're up to, or would he prefer don't ask, don't tell basis? You need to be clear that you're doing this to enable you to stay in the marriage.

Reading The Ethical Slut may also help. Good luck.

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ginnyorjenny · 10/08/2016 10:33

Okay. Okay. Okay. You were all right. Bad idea from start to finish. Spent WAY too much time on this, and unless you're into hookups (which I'm not) it's a waste of time. Even spoke to a few women who am totally convinced were blokes ("what colour are your panties?" HA!). Anyway, the keys to the magic kingdom are not found here, or at least I don't have the stomach to keep looking. Thanks for the advice. You can send on the award for research in the interests of Mumsnet.

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KatieHopkinsAteMyHamster99 · 10/08/2016 14:40

Well IMO it's not that hard to find people out there who are up for this.

I've had some ultra hot text sex recently with an old flame from many years ago. We live a long way apart so unlikely to ever meet.
Fabswingers website also worth a go but brace yourself for lots of penis pics. Why men think these are attractive I have no idea. Unless it's to prove their equipment is functional but I think most women set the bar rather higher than that..

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namechangerlala · 17/08/2016 10:38

Search for 'anonymous chat' in the app store. you can be as anonymous as you wish and nothing is saved or recorded.

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