Hi, I am just looking for some advice really and to see if I'm alone/not alone. It's about my sex life with my husband and how things have changed.
I'll just give some background info. My hubby and I have been married 7 years, together 8 years and have two children, a 3 year old and 1 year old. Our 1 year old is still in our room as we have a two bed house. We used to do all sorts of kinky things and my hubby and I have always had fantastically etc. It's all been part of our relationship over the years. We used to have a good sex life. I haven't always enjoyed what my husband has, (always gave it a go mind) we've found our way and had a great time.
I know that it is normal for a couples sex life to change and ours has with kids and as we've been together longer. We don't do it as much as we used to but I'm ok with that, I think we'd both like it more but life and tiredness seems to get in the way ! What I'm really struggling with and not really happy with is basically when we do do it my husband seems to always be needing to think of his fantasies to enjoy our sex. It's always the same fantasy of me being with another man, it was sexy to start with but its all the time now. I'm an incurable romantic and I just want my hubby to make love to me because he wants to, because he desires me. I may sound soppy about this and like I need a slap in the face ha ha, but I do just want normal sex, it'd be a novelty!!
I just miss a relationship where sex is because you fancy each other and not because you're living out some fantasy in your head. What made me realise I wasn't enjoying sex was when we had sex a few nights ago and we'd had some wine and I was a bit tipsy and turned on. I really enjoyed it and it made me realise in reality I hadn't felt that way having sex for a long time- years. What can I do about this? How do I approach the topic with my hubby? We are looking at getting a bigger house so we can finally have our own room back and have sex in a bed, I'm so tired of the sofa!
Just need advice about how to sort this out. I love my hubby so much, but I just miss normal, romantic sex. It just doesn't seem to exist with him any more 
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