Porn and sexuality

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I have never really liked the idea of porn and my experience of it is limited. About 10 years ago I had a partner who bought some DVDs to watch together. On one hand I was curious and slightly turned on by the heterosexual acts but I also found it slightly demeaning to the women involved - who were effectively dominated and obviously only did it for money. Meanwhile I have always thought of myself as being 100% hetero.
I have a new partner now who showed me some online porn that he had been watching. This porn was about solo women exhibiting themselves/undressing and close ups of them masturbating (I'm sure they must have been paid but it was clear that they were enjoying themselves but no domination by men thrusting their dicks everywhere). Initially, my interest was just curiosity but I got quite turned on and aroused (physically wet like never before and it resulted in intense sex with DP). Since this I have had a definite boost in sex drive, frequency of private masturbation where I think of this new porn and I keep going back to this new porn and watching it alone and fantasising that I was there with them and even wanted to touch them.
I'm now quite shocked that I might have a lesbian or bi characteristic but when the porn has gone, I have no attraction to other women. Does anyone know if there is a link between this sort of voyerism kick and sexuality? Anyone else had the same experience?
I'm just interested to know what is going on - not a debate about LBT politics.

I think what you're describing is very common. Fantasies are just that. Fantasy. You wouldn't necessarily apply it in the real world.
I can totally relate to your post but in the real world I'm only interested in F/M sex with my DH
What I think about on my own and what I watch is entirely removed from that.

Normal definitely, I think women's bodies work better in porn, they're more sexual aren't they than mens? In real life I'm only interested in men but images of naked men do nothing for me if I'm honest!

Would there be a problem in you being bi curious?

I am and I know a lot of women are. Most of the time DH and I watch amateur porn together it's the woman that really turns me on.

I've had threesomes with another woman and it's been on the whole a very enjoyable experience.

It doesn't mean I don't love my DP very much. I'm committed to him and mainly fantasise these days.

I have no real life interest in other women sexually, but I find them a huge turn on in porn and erotica. I think it's extremely common.

The problem with so much porn is that it commonly and routinely depicts violation of women.

No woman wants to be violently throat fucked or have herself hammered by a bloke in the way porn depicts.

The porn you describe focusses entirely on the arousal and pleasure of a female, enjoying herself. It's no wonder you find a connection to this viewpoint because it is a natural feminine take on sexuality.

You don't necessarily need to be bicurious to enjoy scenes of this nature and relate to it.

There is hardly any available porn that prioritises female pleasure.

There is a massive amount of very diverse porn out there.
It's not all depicting aggressive sex, there's lots of women orientated porn available if you look for it.
Tumblr has an enormous range. Search for Couples Porn or Female Friendly Porn. Erika Lust films.
There are a few ideas HERE but there's loads more.

The stuff I liked is at www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=295114247.

and www.the-female-orgasm.com (some free samples but we have subscribed)

I know that PHub has a lot of rubbish on it - but you can filter out the stuff you don't want using the search button