Gf and homemade porn

[JohnJ80]

Recently I have entered into a relationship. The woman in question is wonderful and we've hit it off on every level: shared interests, great conversation and fantastic sex!

However, when discussing sexual fantasies she confessed to being a keen exhibitionist. She told me she has uploaded videos of herself masturbating to porn sites (although with her face not showing).

I don't want to be judgmental but feel very ambivalent about sharing her with an audience of millions. It just seems odd. I'm a little older than her and maybe am a bit behind the times. What do people think?

It's something she did before meeting you that turned her on. So what?

I'm a bit on the fence here.

What she did prior to meeting you is not really your concern. However if she still wants to do this and have you as a partner, I think you need to agree some limits.

But I'd be worried about the long term nature of your relationship, if you have such diametrically opposed views on sharing such images.

It was before she met you. She hasn't revealed her identity, I can't see where the problem lies.

It was masturbating. Not a home made porn with another where the other could reveal her identity.

I don't think I'd like sharing my dp with an audience, either. It's a tricky one, because I wouldn't want to be controlling or possessive, but my feelings would count and I would have to express them. To not do so wouldn't be fair on either party.

Does she still post these videos?

HandsomeGroom: No, she doesn't pot them anymore. She posted them onto a tube site a few years. She says she still gets off on reading the comments they receive though.

Then I suppose it's like any other kink. Everyone has thins that turn them on that don't necessarily do it for other people.

I know someone who's husband did the same.

She eventually came to terms with it because she loves him. She still wishes he hadn't done it though, and did make the point "what about when the kids grow up and are looking at stuff online... better hope they don't recognise the backgrounds!"

It did take her months, and having the passwords to check there's no interaction helped her.

(she tells me everything)

Chill....

She was obviously careful enough to conceal her face. tatts or whatever and she did it for her own enjoyment, so why worry?

If this is going to be a problem for you, I suggest finishing it now. I wouldn't like you think of this woman being morally looked down on by you for the length of your relationship, for something perfectly legally and morally correct that she did long before she ever caught sight of your judgy pants.

John, if this is not something that you can tolerate that is your choice

End it with her though. Don't drag it out while you dissemble and take your time to see if she comes up to your own standards

Her behaviour either does or it doesn't

FWIW, I don't use porn and I don't tolerate it's use in a partner.

She owns her body, not you