clothing for sex - normal or are we unusual? How far to go?

[cherrygoround]

I've aways slept naked or in sensible, feminine PJs and started bedroom antics in bed. Last month DP and I ended up coming back from a party and getting down to it still in our clothes - nice and slow. I mentioned to DP that it felt more sensual than starting in bed with the lights out. He agreed and told me that he has a nylon fetish and he loved petting with my tights on and the challenge of getting them off (I think a link to a sexual conquest before he met me). He asked me to wear tights to bed - which I did and I have to say, I found it a great turn on. Are we strange or is this normal? DP has suggested buying stuff from Ann Summers to wear but I don't feel comfortable about that - seems rather page 3 ish to me. Am I being a prude? I kind of feel it would be good and naughty but then I feel that I'm demeaning myself. Normal tights to satisfy his fetish is comfortable in my head. Do people really buy that Ann Summers stuff to wear or is it for vicar and tart parties and hen nights? Practical advice please - not a feminist argument/discussion.

I would say it's all pretty normal. Go for it

None of what you've described strikes me as particularly kinky. But what other people do in bed is really neither here nor there. If you're both comfortable with it and enjoying yourselves then it's fine.

Normal. DH loves it when I wear stockings.

Starting fully clothed and undressing each other is a big turn on for me. All that unbuttoning...

There is normal when it comes to your own sex life. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing.

Perhaps do a bit of online shopping and get some bits delivered discretely and see how you feel in them.

I've bought plenty of stuff from AS. DH has never complained :)

**There is NO normal

Yy ^^

If you both enjoy it and it hurts no-one do whatever you want :)

Just started a job in Ann summers, yes people do buy that stuff. We aren't in the least bit phased by it, we aren't judging, and if you have a vague idea of what you want we can help you find something suitable.

Try keeping the lights on? If he's that into nylon maybe he'd prefer you to wear stockings as that way you could keep them on all the time ;-). Unless you both like wrestling the tights off, I'd see that more as a bit of hassle. Whatever floats your boat.

I have tried stockings with him - no effect for him or me. We do take them off before getting down to PIV - it is the foreplay and penetration hold back that arouses him and for me stimulation over tights is far more effective at giving me pleasure (it concentrates the stimulation on the outer parts - both manual and also with my vibrator and I like the prolonged no penetration arrangement to get me to climax first and quite often he cums without getting them off).

Sounds like it has proved to be a good way of getting him to take more time on foreplay than he was doing, and you're finding out just how good the foreplay can be. He seems to be getting a lot out of the extra pleasure he is giving you, so that sounds like an all round successful development.

Like you say though, as long as you feel comfortable doing it it's ok, and you're not sure you won't be feeling cheap in gear from Ann Summers (many would feel that way, as it does look cheap, shiny man-made materials usually, and is inexpensive) however, there are many good lingerie shops out there that do a far better job on quality, erotic underwear that does actually look like it will fit a woman. It doesn't have to come from a sex shop.

Ann Summers would go out of business if people didn't buy this stuff.

It's a little naughty buying sex outfits...thats part of the charm if youve found something that revs things up enjoy it while its fresh. You'll likely go back to doing things the usual way soon when this loses its novelty.

Maybe try a bodystocking?

Well I don't buy Ann Summers stuff because it's a bit cheap and nasty to me. But I have a chest full of bedroom outfits, yes.

I only have a drawer full