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Insecure about my body

21 replies

Rattybattycatty · 20/06/2016 21:16

Have had a couple of ltrs and previous partners have not had a problem, but recent difficult relationship has had very little sex for a few years. That has now ended and I have met someone new...early days, but I have lost all body confidence. I have one labia a bit longer than the other and have convinced myself new partner will find this off putting. Don't know how to stop myself worrying and feeling I'm not 'pretty' enough , anyone help please?

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PeachyStone · 20/06/2016 21:19

The men and women I've slept with have never given a shit, they're just happy, as was I, that we were about to have a bit of sex.
Plus if they're bothered that one tiny bit of you is slightly larger than its opposite they're not good enough to be having sex with you in the first place.

Nobloodynamesleft · 20/06/2016 21:35

Even though I haven't seen it, I KNOW there is nothing wrong with your labia!!!! Stop picking yourself apart. Have a glass of wine and tell yourself he's lucky to have you! None of us are airbrushed, we're just normal, including him. If he has any problem, it's in his head and not your body! Enjoy it. Fake it til you make it (confidence only )

suspiciousofgoldfish · 20/06/2016 21:39

I don't think anyone's noticed my lopsided labia. I assumed everyone had a wonky vag?

They will just be glad you're having sex with them, don't worry about it another second.

AnyFucker · 20/06/2016 21:41

The only women who have perfectly symmetrical anything are those who have been under the knife.

Men don't notice. Honestly.

Patterkiller · 20/06/2016 21:48

One of my DH bollocks is bigger than the other. I never noticed until ten years in and he mentioned it. And I said 'oh yeah'. Move on.

I assume most women and men are wonky.

Wonky ears, eyes, feet, boobs, teeth, labia.

broadswordcallingdannyboy · 20/06/2016 21:51

Please don't worry a jot.
I'd just be delighted I was able to see it, whatever shape or size. My cock leans to the right, but hey, who cares? Relax and ride him like he was the only man on earth.

AnyFucker · 20/06/2016 21:52

Heh

PeachyStone · 20/06/2016 21:53

My ex DP had completely wonky balls due to mumps as a teenager, think one a grape and one a plum.
I gave not one single shit. Cos if I could see them I was likely to be getting some sex.

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Rattybattycatty · 20/06/2016 22:10

Thank you all...this is helping immensely. ..

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winkywinkybumbum · 20/06/2016 22:23

Oh my goodness. I am in no way neat and tidy down there. Defo lopsided and my bits are definitely not 'designer' by any stretch of the imagination.

Sometimes I have moments where I wish I was a bit more tucked in but you know what....it just doesn't matter.

frikadela01 · 20/06/2016 22:27

Please don't worry about this. I have, shall we say rather prominent inner labia that I was very paranoid about as a teenager. Suffice to say that I've never had any complaints.
DP bloody loves going down there so it can't be that bad and I guarantee yours isn't either.

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Rattybattycatty · 20/06/2016 22:35

I think it's partly because ive really only seen women's genitals in text books and they are always drawn as totally symmetrical and neat. A friend suggested looking at the wall sculpture of vulvas and that was helpful but I think my confidence is so low I am still looking for reassurance

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AnyFucker · 20/06/2016 23:00

I just checked. One of mine is lower than the other.

broadswordcallingdannyboy · 20/06/2016 23:08

hi AnyFucker. I was Bettyswalloxs in a former life.....

AnyFucker · 20/06/2016 23:10

Hi there Danny.

AWaspOnAWindowInAHeatwave · 20/06/2016 23:17

If it makes you feel any better OP... I have one eyebrow higher than the other, one eye bigger than the other, my nose is asymmetrical, my teeth are a bit crooked, one boob is a full cup size bigger than the other, my stomach definition has been decimated by pregnancy and my belly button looks like it's got a road running through it, and I walk with a slight limp... And I dread to think what delivering two giant babies and the subsequent stitching has done to the appearance of my nether regions. Luckily my overhang of stomach skin prevents me from looking too closely

But DH loves me (and to be honest I wouldn't say I was ugly either, despite all the above!)

Seriously, if he's so shallow that he'll notice your "flaw" (and somehow I'm sure he won't notice at all) then he ain't worth your time.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 23/06/2016 16:59

I doubt any bloke would be bothered tbh or even see it as an issue. It's completely normal.

SheWhoDaresGins · 24/06/2016 09:37

AWaspOnAWindowInAHeatwave I too have an over hang. Fucking hate the damn thing but MrGin never says a thing.

I have en eyebrow higher than the other
1 ear sits higher than the other so I can't wear sun glasses because they sit really wonky on my face.

I have bat wings never mind bingo wings.

All he has ever noticed is if I have ever forgot to shave my pits for a while and sings 99 red balloons

Your DP won't even notice a thing, you never know he might have his own hang ups and going through the same emotions as you.

Bet you both have an amazing time, just relax and enjoy.

broadswordcallingdannyboy · 24/06/2016 14:44

Hi, how are you doing, OP?

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Rattybattycatty · 25/06/2016 19:03

Feeling a bit more confident thanks!

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Couldashouldawoulda · 25/06/2016 19:10

Also OP - low lighting helps me to relax into it, if I'm feeling less than confident!

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