Am i weird? or has this happened to someone else?

[BlueberryJuice]

Incase this is relevant i have a very high sex drive & dh has average sex drive. After a certain amount of time with no sex i start to dream about sex, this i know is common in itself, but if the period of no sex goes longer than a couple of months then thats when things get more different....

What i mean is i will dream about sex and the dream will become very vivid and i will often wake to find myself masterbating and often in mid orgasm, and quite i few times, in my sleep, often without waking I have given my dh a handjob, even managed to 'finish him off' again sometimes without even waking!

Anyone else had this or am i just weird? Lol

'Yes that's right officer I'm handing myself in, you see I sexual assaulted my partner while I was asleep. We both enjoyed it and he said he didn't mind but I really ought to be on the sex offenders register don't you think?'

To answer you, no it's never happened to me, but I'm sure my DH would be delighted if it ever did!

To answer you, no it's never happened to me, but I'm sure my DH would be delighted if it ever did!

I know mine was! surprised, but delighted! and for my part i really enjoy pleasing my husband, even if iam sometimes asleep when ive done stuff, neither of us mind so i dont see an issue :D

If the OP is asleep, and doesn't realise that she (and it would be the same if it was a 'he' on a 'she') is doing this, or anything else, (either sexual or otherwise, for example hitting/kicking) to her partner then no assault has taken place in law. For somebody to be found guilty of any criminal offence the prosecution must prove the existence of a 'guilty mind', or 'mens rea' (more fully, 'actus reus non facit reum nisi mens sit rea') which essentially means that an act must be conscious/deliberate to constitute a crime (crudely, you need to have meant to do it). Mens Rea: "the act is not culpable unless the mind is guilty".

Well put benedict
Some of the completely OTT reaction on this post, have had me in stitches.

Thanks Benedict & your right TheNaze73 , would i also be a thief because I'm a fidget in my sleep and also often steal the covers???

Been on here for years as bettyswalloxs.

Steal covers 😃😃

Which, incidentally, has the actus reus and mens rea of, from memory: the dishonest appropriation of property belonging to another with the intention of permanently depriving...
Say that the next time the covers are stolen!!😃😃

I'm feeling all educated now broadsword

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I remember the last time MN discussed sleep sex and agreed it was assault.

I laughed then at this view. I'm laughing again at posters claiming it is assault.

As said earlier, all of us who've done such a terrible thing had better trot along and hand ourselves in to the coppers, who'd be delighted at solving loads of extra crimes, think of the bonuses they'd get.

OP, you carry on with your activities. :) Good luck.

Thanks

Thanks

I remember a poster once saying that she sometimes masturbated if she was feeling randy and her husband was fast asleep next to her, and the thread erupted with people screaming that she was 'abusing' her husband for having a wank in her own bed. It was unbelievable.

...'by' having, not 'for'....

That makes even less sense how can she be abusing her hubby if shes not even touching him? People have some strange ideas lol

I've had a fair few BFs who have said if I wake before them and fancy giving them a wank, BJ or a fuck then feel free. It was their idea of heaven to be woken like that. So everyone is individual and if they say they're happy with something (and they are over the age of consent/in sound mind, etc) it is not for others to tell them they've been assaulted IMHO.

Exactly, in fact dh says he wishes it would happen alot more than it actually does

If my wife woke me like this I would feel loved and desired and sexy.

It's hot. It's romantic. It's NOT assault.

Thank you my dh is of the same opinion, i just wish the same thing happend to him, i would love to wake up that way lol

Oh. Dear. God. He said he likes it, she's asleep and not even aware she's doing it/has no control over it.

Some people must have empty lives, just always looking for drama/issues

FWIW me and Dp often wake each other up by touching one another. I love it, it's bloody lovely

Exactly, im happy, he's happy, so its a win win lol