Apologies if TMI
My Wife and I used to have a fairly active sex life until about 5 years ago. No DC or excuses just overwork, she's a teacher and works every night and all weekend and the best known contraceptive known to man - a Kindle in the bedroom. We have tried to make love once or twice a year at best. Last occasion was on holiday in November. We have discussed it but owing to my Wife's vaginal dryness (51) PIV hasn't been possible. She has been to the Drs and been prescribed hormones that are inserted. This treatment has been going on for some months but has had little positive effect.
We tried again last nght but PIV wasn't possible even with lube, oh and Himself decided his services weren't required and wouldn't co-operate even after a lot of foreplay. A lot of frustration and a few tears. I don't normally have a problem in that department so no blue pills needed although I a also 50.
Is there anything we can try to ease things along? I wandered whether a vibrator or something similar might help - practice and all that. Not sure I fancy being spotted in our local branch of Ann Sumers - we live in a small community and people rarely get away with anything without being spotted. My Wife is talking of loading her Kindle with erotic reading. The main issue appears to be lubrication and opening places up. ahem. Could not insert more than a single finger last night never mind anything else. The one thing I don't want to do is to hurt or embarrass my wife. We just want a sex life back rather than living like housemates. We are very close and quite affectionate otherwise holding hands in public etc.
Any advise gratefully received by us both.