How to increase sex drive

[PeaceLoveAndJaffaCakes]

I have zero desire to have sex. I gave birth fifteen months ago, and I stopped breastfeeding about three months ago. I really hoped that would have an effect, but it doesn't seem to have. We're getting a lot more sleep now, and I feel like I've come out the other side of PND.
I had a bit of a difficult time when I gave birth, but I've had some counselling and feel like I've worked through those issues as far as I can do.
I have the contraceptive implant in at the moment, and I take antidepressants, though I have done for the past fifteen years.
Is there anything i can do to boost my desire to have sex? I would like to have another baby, but the thought of months of daily sex to conceive is horrifying! I've tried about four times since I gave birth, and I've hated every second. My DH is very understanding and respectful, but I know it would upset him if I only tolerated sex in order to conceive. He would feel used, and rightly so. I want to "want to", if that makes sense. I don't even enjoy kissing or being touched. In fact, it makes my skin crawl Help!

Oh dear...
Do you actually find your partner sexually desirable?
Is he helping with your PND and making you feel attractive?

It's not always simply the case that you don't want sex because there's something wrong with you.
Maybe you are not connecting with your partner in the way you would like to in various aspects of your relationship.

Getting a bit of "practice" in the solo sense, can remind you how it feels after a bit of a drought, and can boost you appetite.

Have you orgasmed at all even manually in all this time?

When I had the implant I was completely not interested in sex at all. I think that might not be helping the situation. Could you try a romantic evening in having a bath together to start and just being naked together? Doesn't have to be sex straight away

0phelia yes, I have. Which is confusing, because I still have no desire to have intercourse even then. It's not DH, it's any man. The thought makes me feel a bit sick
He's been very supportive and he always tells me he finds me attractive etc.

Mini I wondered if it could be the implant, though I had it in the past without any issues. I'm also a bit too scared to have it taken out before I'm 100% ready to conceive!

Thanks for your advice. I've been a bit embarrassed to reply, but it needs sorting.

Seeing as your relationship is good, there are no "hidden" reasons to your feeling put off, then it could be a combination of things such as becoming a mother, breastfeeding, sleep deprivation, all these things make you feel very unsexy. Your body changes so much after giving birth including your turn ons and erotic zones!

You've stopped breastfeeding now, so your body will return to your more "normal" self. The other influencing aspect is the implant.

I had Implanon implant and it wrecked havoc on my body, made my uterus unstable and so I bled after sex. It was horrid, so I got rid.

You may find getting it removed will make you feel more like your normal self, in time for planning your next child. No point having an implant if you aren't having sex, anyway (sorry to be blunt!) Your DH can wear a condom in the meanwhile.

• erogenous zones. I am educated.

I would seriously consider the implant being removed. It actually sent me a bit loopy. I forgot how to do certain every day tasks! And the thrush was horrendous. I couldn't bare for my then DH to even touch me in any way at all. Could you go to the doctors and be refered to counselling?

Meant to say I am very glad your DH is being so supportive

I think I will try getting the implant removed and see if that has an effect. I've always used condoms as well as the implant because I really dislike the sensation of him "depositing" himself inside me. Urgh. See what I mean about conceiving again possibly being an issue?!

Thanks so much for the advice, I really do appreciate it. I just wish I could take a magic pill

Drink parsley tea daily.

Parsley tea sounds revolting!

Is parsley tea like oysters? Once you've done it anything else is pleasurable!

Joking aside sounds like the hormones in the implant might be the cause, good luck!

Reminds me of that Dentinox for windy babies that is dill flavoured

How do you feel if you are reading some erotic litterature (NOT FSG!! well unless it's your thing iyswim)?

Oddly enough parsley tea is really tasty just use a small palmful of fresh parsley and steep in a cup or mug of boiling water.

It can loosen the bowels however if you take too much. And make you thirsty.

Other than that it does get you horny again!

Definitely in the same situation here. We are currently TTC and this has been the worst part of it for me. I definitely want it to be like it was 5 years ago!