Silent partner

[Bapaloona]

My partner is entirely silent during sex, until the very last moment when he climaxes. It makes it very difficult to judge how much he's enjoying it. I try to listen to his breathing but there's almost nothing to hear. It's very difficult to adapt your pace/learn what really works for them, when there are so few clues. I have to ask if I want to know how much he's enjoying it which is a bit off-putting. When I do ask he says 'What you're doing is perfect'. I guess I just expect more feedback. I can't help but make noises and I know he listens intently to me & plays me for a reaction. I'd love to do the same to him. Any ideas?

Have you spoken about it outside of the bedroom?
My DH used to be like this - he would understand from the sounds I made if I liked something or not and tell me how much he liked knowing I was enjoying myself, but he was quiet. I would ask if he was enjoying whatever I was doing and he always said "what do you think?" In the end, out of bed and nowhere near sex I asked him if he was happy with our sex life and explained that him not letting me know what he enjoyed or needed made me feel selfish, like he concentrated on me and I wasn't allowed to do the same in return.
Now, he's not noisy at all but he will ask for things / tell me "that's amazing / perfect" and ask me to go faster / slower / harder / whatever so I know he's getting what he wants.
Good luck OP

I used to be very very quiet in bed - so much so that OH mentioned it. I wasn't aware that I was unusually quiet at all, until I realised that I has basically trained myself to be almost completely silent due to a) living in parents house with walls made of paper and then b) housemates.

It took him pointing it out and us chatting about it for me to even be conscious of it. Maybe mention it, see how the conversation goes?