new man, advise please

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Hi all, but embarrassed to be posting a sex thread but there you go! My new man is lovely, no problems so far...except he lasts AGES in bed. Now I know this should be a good thing but I struggle to keep up! I'm used to something more like 20 mins or less, not a good couple of hours.

The other night I ended up thinking oh will you just finish already as I was absolutely knackered.

I took myself to google and Dr Google said things like 'excessive masturbation' and I got a bit paranoid. I've had four kids so perhaps it's not...stimulating enough for him?

Any advise on what to do here? Be kind please!

A couple of hours I'd be bored and sore. Sorry, no helpful advice but I feel your pain.

I did used to have four hour sex sessions with the ex but he wasn't banging away for four hours. We were doing lots and lots of filthy stuff with a few breaks inbetween lol.

If he is pretty much wanting hours of PIV sex then that will definitely make you sore. It might be better to start with that but finish him off with your hand or mouth.

I don't really have a problem with PIV, doesn't make me sore, it's more that he is so energetic about it, trying to keep up makes me feel like I'm about to have a heart attack! And he is older than me by ten years. Maybe I need to go to the gym!

I'm no prude so would be happy enough to use the hand or mouth, however he does like to take the lead.

I'm seeing him tonight so maybe best just to talk with him about it.

My friends all think it's great! They should try gasping for breath and wanting to sleep for a few hours!

I couldn't cope with 2 hours, poor you!

Is he taking Viagra?

I wouldn't like that at all! Boring.

My ex and I kept going for 13 hours once...mind you we didn't see each other very often and I did feel sore afterwards. Why not just say to him "I am getting a bit tired" at the point when you are starting to get tired/bored. Communication is the key

What age is he? I went through something similar in my early 40's, it wasn't to do with my wife having had kids, I just found I had become much less sensitive and it was taking me a lot - like, ages - longer to orgasm. My wife obviously noticed and we worked out together what was needed to solve the issue. That's maybe not so easy in a new relationship so for us the answer was different positions, additional stimulation by hand whilst dtd, alternating between PIV and hand/oral, stuff like that. As always though if you can talk about it then that's the best way to work out the solution that works for both of you.

Do you think maybe he's masturbating before you meet up so he doesn't come to quick?

I can always tell if DH has had a bit of 'me time', he lasts loads longer!

I had an ex like that many moons ago. He was my first lover, so I didn't realise how bad he was. I think that he couldn't get fully erect or climax, a bit like Brewers droop ( that's what he called it).