WHEN will husbands sex drive decrease????

[jemimavintage]

So.....the husband is 55. We've been together for 13 years, no kids together but one each with previous partners. I'm 48... For 13 years I've been waiting for his sex drive to decrease. But no. It's stayed at the same level throughout.......and at times it's exhausting.....especially as I age myself.

We've had a few runs ins about it over the years, with compromise on both our parts....and now, it usually ends up once a day, minimum 5 days a week....usually 6. His mood is very closely tied to how much sex he has but I could take or leave it.....for weeks, months even!! I don't really want to carry on having to have sex pretty much every single day...but also, I do love the closeness of our relationship, which for him...seems to feed from the amount of sex. Ugh, such a pain...

How much longer might he stay like this???!! My previous husband had zero sex drive, so moving on to someone who was really good at physically intimate was great at first....however...no matter what is going on in our lives.....stresses/strains/business/family issues.......his sex drive is mad....and mine gets really affected by lifes little happenings..

Anyway, just wondered whether I'm the only one with a sex mad middle aged husband!!!! Yikes!!!!

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My DP is 5 years older than your DH and his sex drive is still very high. We have sex most days but it suits us both.

He also does not even need a hand to be ready so I would not assume your DH's sex drive and ability to have sex will disappear any time soon.

I find your post quite sad - you have been waiting your entire relationship for his sex drive to drop. I would hate for DP to mainly be shagging me cos he thought he should. It is wonderful to be desired and aching for his touch and how sad you seem to feel it is more of a chore.

Can you not talk to him about it. Would you not both be better having sex three times a week where you both want it than going through the motions to please him.

My husband is a year younger and more or less the same (well, he wants it everyday but doesn't get it!) I recently read a great book about sexual desire (Come as You Are) which explains how different people react differently - some get turned on frequently for no particular reason whereas others (often women) need to feel sexy before they actually want to have sex. Both are totally normal and no-one has the right to criticize the other person for wanting sex more or less. Why am I telling you this? Because it actually helped a lot in our discussions so that we could find a compromise that suited us both.