Do you orgasm everytime you have sex

[dustarr73]

I was just wondering,i dont.It doesnt bother me but was wondering about everyone else.

OP, I get what you mean. Sometimes the feeling of having sex is enough, and actually all I want. It's relaxing and comfortable and really really nice.

OTOH, sometimes an orgasm (or orgasms) are what I want. And both dp and I know what works to ensure that happens. Having the pressure of an expectation that I will orgasm is a certain way to ensure I don't though.

I am single so going from memory, but I used to have sex for SO many reasons, other than to orgasm! I wanted to feel close to my partner, was bored, couldn't sleep, horny, needed to reconnect, wanted a cuddle etc. The orgasm wasn't really the important part of it, though if I wanted one then my ex or I would make sure I did. Ahh fond memories

Would love to betty but dh and I haven't dtd in over a year, and it was probably a year between the time before that. We just muddle along without the intimate element of a relationship, kind of like roomies who happen to have a child together. He has premature ejaculation problems and I don't have any self confidence due to my weight. One day, maybe.

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. With all my previous sexual partners, I haven't had an orgasm during sex. I went most of my sexual life orgasm-less. With my current partner, I'd say I orgasm 80% of the time during sex. Usually if I don't finish during sex, my OH will finish me off. Sometimes I just like having sex and I'm not bothered about the end game. I find when I put pressure on myself to finish, I find it near impossible. If I relax and try not to worry whether I'll finish or not, most of the time I do :)

Busyworkingmum No im not teasing. My.partner ensures I orgasm every time and I'd say I pretty much always have more than one.

Haha, no. Don't get time!

The vast majority of the time I do but there are rare occasions when my body just isn't co-operating and it's not going to happen (though my mini wand usually gets me there)

It isn't all about the orgasm for me. Sometimes I might just want sex and enjoy the sensations and the connection to my DH. I won't put any pressure on either of us when it's just not happening.

It's only ever once per session - I get too sensitive and sore after that.

Yes every time but never by intercourse alone.

Before I had children, about 95% of the time I'd orgasm, now I'd say about half of the time I do - my mind just can't relax anymore like it used to.

I have to say though, I do find sex without orgasm a bit pointless.

Do I orgasm during piv, nope, only have a couple of times in my life.

Did I orgasm with previous partner, never.

One before, about 1/3.

In between FB, every time.

On my own, very rarely - I don't find myself sexy like that. In fact, I find the advice to learn how to give yourself an orgasm so you can teach a partner really weird as they way I orgasm alone (vibrator) is different from how I can with a partner (digitally and/or orally). And neither way with a partner are things I can do to myself -- my arms and neck aren't long enough.

I agree with PP that there are many different reasons I have sex, and orgasm is only one part of that.

It takes me a fair while to get there usually, so if I only wanted a quickie then I'd not be expecting to have an orgasm necessarily.

There are other points to sex than an orgasm. The feeling of intimacy and doing something loving for your partner can be rewarding enough without a full on knee-trembler.

Almost always, 98% of the time, so can i say yes?

With exh yes but only once and would take a while to get there,with dp yes every time,and several times every time.

Increasingly rarely but it's my fault because I can't be arsed to do my kegel style midwife exercises.

Increasingly rarely but it's my fault because I can't be arsed to do my kegel style midwife exercises.

It happened rarely when I was with a man. And nearly all the time now that I am with a woman.

Yes several times every time we do 'sexy time' (I don't call it 'sex' as it isn't usually piv).

Only ever once or twice from piv, he always uses his hands.

He prides himself on doing a good job and would be disappointed if I didn't, so he usually takes about an hour to make sure I'm totally happy. We rarely have a quickie but if we do that would always mean at least one orgasm for me.

I do with DH, one way or another. Haven't always before DH.